Monday 24th February - what small DFW things will you be doing today?

Bobarella

foxgloves wrote: »

SettingIn - Sorry to hear you think you may be starting with panic attacks. I've suffered with those in the past. Took a while to diagnose/come to terms with as I'm naturally quite a loud, confident person & I couldn't believe it was happening to me (& either could anyone else!) However, they evolved out of a period of stress I just couldn't seem to get on top of. I'd handle the whole thing differently now, so am saying to you that you need to be very kind to yourself, remind yourself that you are a person in your own right & not defined solely by your work, & tell yourself firmly when you are feeling the jitters coming on that this is a natural bodily response to stress & it will pass. Sometimes when work is bad, I think it can help to make a conscious decision to do your job as well as you can, but to remember that it is something you do for the pay, so focus on that & make sure you have lots of nice things to do at home. These don't have to involve spending money. If you make a list of everything you most like doing, I bet there'll be loads of things on it that don't actually cost anything at all, that's what I always find. Overall, it's pretty normal for people (esp us women with our complicated hormones!) to have ups & downs in moods. Sometimes, just accepting this can help moods become more even. Most importantly, <wagging finger> don't beat yourself up!! I used to be the world's worst for this. It doesn't help & it almost certainly adds to the insomnia. I don't mean this to sound like a nag.....it's just I'm a bit older than you, have been in that space where reaction to stress allows panic attacks to take hold, & I would handle it so differently these days xx

All good advice.

Pepperoni

* Take clothes bags to 'we buy clothes' place - earned £26.55
* Post 2 eBay parcels - earned around £36
* Post more items on eBay
* Wash clothes to be put onto eBay that had been in our garage for a few months
* Don't buy anything we don't need....

good_advice

Thanks for your kind words Bobarella
I think I am in shock mode. I have now washed my hair, I find it helps some how. Not that it was dirty as I washed it yesterday.
Taken x1 Nurofen and waiting for time to pass (time heals).

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Feeling quite low at the moment, between illness, sleepless nights & a job I hate, feel totally out if my depth and now feel is actually causing me panic attacks, I just can't lift my mood at all.

Setting In - I echo all the kind words from the gang here, be gentle with yourself. I think sometimes our emotional tank gets a bit too full up, and things that we would normally cope with grow overwhelming in combination with all the other things we could normally cope with. It took me a long time to realise that I needed a way to create some space in that tank, especially when other people kept relentlessly filling it up for me - either because they needed my support or because they created situations that got to me. Being either out of your depth or unhappy at work (or both) is a relentlessly wearing situation by itself. I hope you find your way through - just one step at a time.
You have done some incredible things outside of that situation despite feeling grim - look at that chunk off your cards, and to stay in the black ALL MONTH is an incredible feat to celebrate. Hang in there.

Good advice - ouch! Be very gentle with yourself too!

Foxgloves - My DD laughs at my obsession with compost. I never used to look twice at it until I emptied rather too much sawdust in there one day. When the cloud lifted it had turned the surface to a weird, lunar type landscape - nothing but dust. Then in front of my eyes, various bugs and wormy things gradually made their way out (probably blinking) and I rushed to throw some green things in (picking flowers as we had no more stuff to compost within reach) as I was horrified at having created such a bleak environment. Since that day, I stop to peer at my compost for a while each time I pop some in. I like to watch the tiny tiny squirmy stuff and am in awe of the process!

Bobarella - I am sorry you are also waking up like that. But I am so glad that your friend has come through for you and that you have managed to move the broken motor on. We scrapped a car once early in the tax. I think we got it back pretty much pro-rata...and I remember it was surprisingly straightforward. Fingers crossed! Don't forget the insurance too, and any congestion charge or other car passes. For us, both the insurance and our toll bridge annual pass were worth halting as there wasn't much of a penalty for stopping, so every day we didn't have it helped, if you know what I mean.

As for my list...er, I survived the cycle, my job uncertainty doesn't feel like such a big deal by comparison to others days, and the rest will have to wait until we get back from the running club. Off to look for something in the freezer that will be easy for DD's tea, maybe one of our hm mac n cheeses might hit the spot.

SettingIn

Thanks everybody for your kind words, Bobarella, Foxgloves, Crazy_lady2009, you all made me really think about my situation, something I feel I am not doing very much as I'm so consumed by it and with fear of failure, all of this is work wise by the way but laterly I can really see it having an effect on home life too and with trying to make a dent in our debts to contend with also, sometimes I just withdraw and cannot see the wood for the trees if that makes sense.

Back to work tomorrow, I'm thinking a quick chat with my manager is called for, employers are so good, extremely good and I couldn't ask for a better manager, it's the lack of direction in a role I am so new to and I'm also studying for a degree by distance learning (all paid for by employer) and I feel that I'm having to learn very quickly about a subject I know nothing about and preech to 300 staff on how to do things. I'm not a leader, I'm a follower and this is what I'm struggling with. Thank you all, I've actually had a productive day and am currently enjoying the rewards as I type.

Saw James Morton (runner up in the GBBO year before last) at the weekend and have today made a loaf of bread, it's so scrummy, so chuffed with myself.

Also managed to make a few crafty bits, this is for my sideline venture to raise more cash. Both activities today really helped to clear my mind.

Tomorrows another day. Even better a day closer to pay day. :j
Thank you all again for reading and taking the time out of your day to reply to me. That's touching. :heartsmil:heartsmil

ziggy2407

Good Evening All

crazylady - Thanks for starting us off today

Sending bigs hugs to lots of you today :A, hope you all start to feel better soon both physically and mentally.

Hubster has taken some time off this week to spend with me and son (who's on halfterm) so today we drove to a local beauty spot where I sat in the car (in the sunshine) with my book while they had a kick about, I then spent the afternoon resting on the sofa while they went swimming, just the general walking and stairs are taking it out of me but am still feeling much better than I have in a long time (and still no head/face pain).

Take care, night all, love

C xx

GettingOrganised

Hi everyone, such a good bunch of people with lots of good advice - and it usually helps more than just the person they are replying to. Settingin/bob, sorry to hear about your worries - I had a bit of a moment today too. I was at work and started to get very anxious (about money of course), I managed to get through it without having an attack (I've only had one full blown panic attack before). Once I was back at home and I could take another look at my bank etc, I felt a lot more at ease. I think I just felt 'out of control' as I was worried, but couldn't do anything whilst at work. I know that this is tiny compared to what others are going through, but you've all helped me (and many others) by posting about it.

Today's list:
All meals from stores
Checked bank
NSD
Called to confirm numbers for DD's party and checked final payment owed
Got all lunches for tomorrow organised
Got mine and DD's clothes out for tomorrow (will save 5 mins in the morning)
Heating on after 6pm and is now off
Made chilli for tea which will also do for tomorrow's tea. I usually use 500g mince, but this week I bought an 800g pack of mince and divided into two (one for today and one for the freezer) and I really don't think it has made much of a difference to the portions. I'll be doing this from now on - it was only 50p more and I will get two extra meals from it.
Getting organised for carpet to come on Wednesday - I can't wait!
Feeling at lot better now, hope it spills over to tomorrow.