The price of attending a wedding!

74jax

Poppy9 wrote: »

It's too far and a bit remote to ask someone to take us and pick us up and neither myself or OH is volunteering to drive:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

For an hours drive one of us would drive rather than pay nearly£200 on a room. There must be somewhere cheaper surely?

ladymarmalade

I think this is important to bear in mind. Weddings are expensive for guests, execially if you have several in a year. But having got married myself last year and bending over backwords to make it as inexpensive for people to attend as possible, I must say it can be very disheartening to keep having people keep telling you how expensive it is for them! We had one (very close) guest that just used to go on about how much it was costing, they never even wished us congratulations or anything!:( Yes, weddings are expensive to go to, and yes we all like to moan about it, but most brides and grooms do feel guilty about it, we did.:A

I try to make sure I have 3-4 good outfits that can be rotated and used with different groups of people. We also look for good deals for accomodation, or arrange to stay with friends/relatives wherever possible. It's always worth asking around for lift shares etc. We often find there is someone in the same boat as us!:cool:

Poppy9

74jax wrote: »

For an hours drive one of us would drive rather than pay nearly£200 on a room. There must be somewhere cheaper surely?

Just looked on google directions and it's 1 hour 15 min drive but it's very remote - no travel lodges there. Looked on trip advisor to see if any tips for someone to stay nearby and none, also did search on area, and again none.

None of other guests travelling home so organising transport to share isn't an option.

A wedding is a one off (usually) and we want to relax and enjoy and I don't want to be driving on mountain roads in early hours of the morning having spent all day drinking water or juice! I'm not a big drinker but I do like a couple of glasses of wine with my meal.

Poppy9

ladymarmalade wrote: »

I think this is important to bear in mind. Weddings are expensive for guests, execially if you have several in a year. But having got married myself last year and bending over backwords to make it as inexpensive for people to attend as possible, I must say it can be very disheartening to keep having people keep telling you how expensive it is for them! We had one (very close) guest that just used to go on about how much it was costing, they never even wished us congratulations or anything!:( Yes, weddings are expensive to go to, and yes we all like to moan about it, but most brides and grooms do feel guilty about it, we did.:A
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but weddings have become more expensive over last 10-15 years for guests. When I got married I provided coaches, as was the norm then, to take guests from church to reception, home again after afternoon reception and picked up all the evening guests to take them to the venue and took them home at the end of the night.

None of the next generation of my family have done this as they expect guests to make their own arrangements, regardless of the awkwardness/expense of getting to/from venue. They say this is the norm as they are spending so much on feeding/watering guests!

Torry_Quine

Poppy9 wrote: »

Just looked on google directions and it's 1 hour 15 min drive but it's very remote - no travel lodges there. Looked on trip advisor to see if any tips for someone to stay nearby and none, also did search on area, and again none.

None of other guests travelling home so organising transport to share isn't an option.

A wedding is a one off (usually) and we want to relax and enjoy and I don't want to be driving on mountain roads in early hours of the morning having spent all day drinking water or juice! I'm not a big drinker but I do like a couple of glasses of wine with my meal.

It's your choice though to drink rather than drive home and that would be the same even if only 10 minutes away so you would still have the cost of accomodation. My thought was it was having drink at the wedding that was the issue.

Poppy9 wrote: »

but weddings have become more expensive over last 10-15 years for guests. When I got married I provided coaches, as was the norm then, to take guests from church to reception, home again after afternoon reception and picked up all the evening guests to take them to the venue and took them home at the end of the night.

None of the next generation of my family have done this as they expect guests to make their own arrangements, regardless of the awkwardness/expense of getting to/from venue. They say this is the norm as they are spending so much on feeding/watering guests!

Until very recently I've never heard of providing transport for guests from the church to the reception and back again. I have always thought it up to the guest to get from one to the other and certainly never expected it provided! Just wondering why guests would be going home after the afternoon reception?

Personally I prefer to decide when to leave and not be dictated to by the time transport is arranged.

Poppy9

Torry_Quine wrote: »

It's your choice though to drink rather than drive home and that would be the same even if only 10 minutes away so you would still have the cost of accomodation. My thought was it was having drink at the wedding that was the issue.

10 minutes from home would be a £10 taxi ride - I could get lift there but wouldn't ask someone to come out at 1am for me!

TorryQuine wrote:

Until very recently I've never heard of providing transport for guests from the church to the reception and back again. I have always thought it up to the guest to get from one to the other and certainly never expected it provided! Just wondering why guests would be going home after the afternoon reception?

Personally I prefer to decide when to leave and not be dictated to by the time transport is arranged.

When I got married, almost 30 years ago straight through weddings were not the norm down here. You married in the morning, had afternoon reception for close friends/family and then an evening do for extending family/friends.

So church at 11am for service, then onto hotel for sit down lunch etc. then everyone left about 5.30pm and came back for 7.30pm . Sounds such a faff now but that's how it happened. Hence you needed to transport them. Oh you were also expected to have a different outfit for the evening do. My mother had a day outfit and an evening outfit.

Now when one of my neices got married at 11am everyone thought she was mad as it made it a long day!

Torry_Quine

Poppy9 wrote: »

10 minutes from home would be a £10 taxi ride - I could get lift there but wouldn't ask someone to come out at 1am for me!





When I got married, almost 30 years ago straight through weddings were not the norm down here. You married in the morning, had afternoon reception for close friends/family and then an evening do for extending family/friends.

So church at 11am for service, then onto hotel for sit down lunch etc. then everyone left about 5.30pm and came back for 7.30pm . Sounds such a faff now but that's how it happened. Hence you needed to transport them. Oh you were also expected to have a different outfit for the evening do. My mother had a day outfit and an evening outfit.

Now when one of my neices got married at 11am everyone thought she was mad as it made it a long day!

I must admit I never even thought of getting a taxi. £10 though would be better than paying for somewhere to stay.

Going home after the reception and coming back in the evening is something I've never come across and yet still don't see why transport was needed. As for seperate outfits. :eek:

Poppy9

Torry_Quine wrote: »

As for seperate outfits. :eek:

No facebook though in the 80s so you could wear same outfits for years an no one would know unless it was distinctive:T:T:T

Torry_Quine

Poppy9 wrote: »

No facebook though in the 80s so you could wear same outfits for years an no one would know unless it was distinctive:T:T:T

I still do.

POPPYOSCAR

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I must admit I never even thought of getting a taxi. £10 though would be better than paying for somewhere to stay.

Going home after the reception and coming back in the evening is something I've never come across and yet still don't see why transport was needed. As for seperate outfits. :eek:

I have never been to a wedding like that either although the last wedding I went to some did go to the nearest takeaway and then come back because they were so hungry.