Step parents

lilmoi1985lm

Is anyone else struggling being a stepmum (or dad) with all the money etc. Dont get me wrong love little legs to pieces and understand he situation and what it brings but didnt realise it in the big picture.

Latest saga, ex-wife doesnt want me to spend time with her son (kind of difficult when we have him half of the week. My partner says she doesnt mean it and cant stop his access but i'm worried. I KNOW she is only being like this now becasue she has split up with her partner because before the split she was fine with with it no probs (as such maybe i need an online diary or write a book). I dont know if she feels like I'm trying to replace her in some way or what but thats the impression I'm left with from the messages I've been getting repeatedly. How can I handle the situation? She doesn't reason at all. Feel like crying, just all going out of hand and cant handle another argument.

Katie~baby

MASSIVE hugs hun! Ive also been told that im not allowed to be alone with the step child, made me feel like some child abuser!! Im bloody good to the child and treat her as if she were my own, surley any mother would be happy with that?

The thing that annoyed me was when the ex told my partner she was not to be around me he just said 'ok'.. That made me SOOOO mad! He should of said 'dont be stupid shes bloody good with her' but noooo men eh! I do ahve her alone a LOT actually and its tough crap im afraid! Shes coming into my home im expected to cook,clean and care for her and not be near her, she can p*ss off!

Dont let it get to you shes saying these things to annoy you and to hurt your feelings. Carry on as you have been and take no notice. Ignore her messages the more you react to her the more she will carry on, beleive me ive been there.

lilmoi1985lm

thank you Katie. I was late in from work tonight so didnt need to have wonderous meeting with her. It just infuriates me so much and makes me think 'what am i doing wrong' but I know I'm not! stressed! I never reply to messages her current trend is sending emails I havent checked yet but I know there will be more slagging me off...sigh never good enough!

I can understand and be sympathetic to somethings but she can be so unrealistic and demanding! My partner too used to agree for less arguing but i think ive made my point on this one!

Thank you for your message anyway, least im not alone!

Katie~baby

I think her harrassing you is a bit extreme! Maybe its the fact she has split from her partner and is jelous of what you and your OH have? She has nothing else going on at the minute and unfortunatly is focusing her energys on abusing you. Youve obvouisly done nothing to make her do this so just let her get on with it shes making herself look like a tit!

lilmoi1985lm

Exactly, you're right im the target of the month (again!). Cheers hun.

squashy

No advice really other than to say it will get better... I have been with my DH for ten years and during the first year we went to hell and back with the ex wife. We aren't exactly best friends nowadays (some things I can't forgive her for) but everyone is civil and reasonable to each other, in fact things tick along just fine.

I do symathise though xxx