Friends wedding

ferf1223

Mojisola wrote: »

I've seen this kind of suggestion before and don't really understand the thinking.

Why should people who have chosen to have their wedding in a place that means many of their friends and family can't attend have another do arranged for them? If the couple really wanted these people at their wedding, they would have planned the wedding accordingly.

Are the guests who can't afford to attend meant to feel guilty and arrange the extra do as a compensation to the couple for not going to the wedding?

I don't think the suggestion was to have a huge blow-out do...but to have the couple and maybe some others over, possibly with a Vegas theme to celebrate the happy event.

I cannot imagine anyone having a destination wedding being upset if some opted not to go (for whatever reason - financial or otherwise). Similarly, if a couple wants to have a wedding at a far-flung destination then more power to them...it's their day and they should have what they want.

WelshKitty

OP don't worry . I am actually going to Vegas for a friends wedding soon and they stated that as it abroad they understand if people can't make it . One thing for us is another friend from same friendship group just announced they are getting wed in 2 years time in the med around Christmas time in which we have declined as it is cost issues as we have our wedding to pay for and it being away for Christmas it not what we want .


If cost is an issue for Vegas there is about 40 of us and hardly any of us are staying in the same hotel as some are budget and are even in Motels while others have treated themselves to an upgrade as it a once in lifetime place for them . The most expensive thing we found was flights and we spent hours getting price match as the same flight with one company was more than £700 than another yet it's the same plane ! What I would say is personally for me for the Bellagio and flights for both me and fianc! it cost £2000 but there were cheaper deals for other great hotels online too .


Good luck if you do go but shop around as it's worth it , but if you don't go don't panic I am sure your friends will understand x

rachiibell

If vegas is somewhere you actually want to go and you can afford it now is the time to go! You can make a holiday out of it whilst you're there.

If vegas is somewhere you don't want to go or you can't afford it then don't go.

If I was getting married abroad I wouldn't be annoyed if people couldn't afford to come but went on other holidays but I might be a bit peeved if they went on holiday to the same place a bit later in the year!

JJ.

Mojisola wrote: »

I've seen this kind of suggestion before and don't really understand the thinking.

Why should people who have chosen to have their wedding in a place that means many of their friends and family can't attend have another do arranged for them? If the couple really wanted these people at their wedding, they would have planned the wedding accordingly.

Are the guests who can't afford to attend meant to feel guilty and arrange the extra do as a compensation to the couple for not going to the wedding?

As for the couple making comments about how people spend their money the rest of the year! It reminds me of a thread on here some time ago where the poor relations were given suggestions of a payment plan with the invitation - we're telling you the date now so far ahead so that you will be able to save up - if you put £50 a month away for the next two years, you'll have saved enough to come.:rotfl:

Lol.. I can see why you thought I meant host a bit of a do. I meant host an evening at their home.

Pinzy

I went to my friend's wedding in Vegas, managed to get flights for about £400 (this was 10 years ago), though it meant 2 changes on the way there, and one on the way back (with 7 hours to kill between one of the flights, but I got to visit Mall of America!). We also stayed in Circus Circus, which was at the other end of the strip to the rest of the group, but it worked out about £20pppn, and the bus to go to the other end of the strip was a dollar.
People at home watched the wedding via live streaming.

A lot will depend on the nights you stay in Vegas. Our Circus Circus stay was from Sunday to Thursday, the Friday and Saturday night was in a very, very low rate motel a block away from the strip, and that was the most expensive one per night, because it was at the weekend.

If it's somewhere you'd like to go anyway, then it'd be a great time to kill two birds with one stone. A friend and I hired a car and did a little tour too (one of the best places we stayed was Furnace Creek in Death Valley).

Obviously, a lot would depend on how cheap you're willing to go - even then, Circus Circus was seen as low end, but I loved it! Clown cop shows on the telly at night! When looking at reviews, I tend to read the worst instead of the best, then you can gauge what they're really complaining about (like giving one star because there wasn't a coffee percolator in the room - the horror!).

You'll hear many different reviews of Vegas - if you want to see shows, it's expensive, if you think you'll want to do rides (like the New York New York coaster, or the Hilton Star Trek ride (which was Ace)), that's money to consider too. There is a lot of free stuff however. Food was reasonable - we tended to do the morning buffet, which would fill us up till mid afternoon, when we'd have a snack, and just end up eating a slice of pie for dinner!

I went because I'd also always wanted to go to America, and had the ability to save for it at the time. If you're not fussed about the US, then as others have said, celebrate with them at home (the poker lesson is a fab idea) and watch it live if they go to a chapel with streaming.

Georgiegirl256

bazzyb wrote: »

Regardless of the cost, is Vegas somewhere that you would ever want to go? I think this is an important factor.

This is a very good point. For me personally, I love Vegas, and if I was invited and had the money then I'd jump at the chance to go! Whereas say it was Tenerife (just for an example) say, or any other similar place, then that's not really my cup of tea, and I wouldn't want to be shelling out hundreds to a place that I wouldn't particularly enjoy (I mean, I might, but with Vegas I know I would!), and so would be less inclined to go.

OP, yes, the flights are expensive to Vegas, but surely you don't have to stay in the same hotel as the couple if it's too pricey, there are plenty of cheaper places to stay which would be more than adequate.

If you really don't want to go, don't be afraid to say no, and a really good friend would understand.

Georgiegirl256

@Pinzy, that Star Trek Experience at the Hilton has closed now. We went about 7-8 years ago and wanted to go again when we went last September, but it's no longer there, which is a real shame, as it was a good laugh!