Feel like the worst fur mummy in the world

codemonkey

On Thursday night we put the dog to bed as usual. At around 4am DH got up for a drink and when he got into the kitchen the microwave had malfunctioned and it was beeping and CD was shaking in his bed. DH shut it off and slept on the couch with the dog for the rest of the night. He did not bark or do anything to let us know he was distressed and we couldn't hear the beeping in our room.

CD responded in his usual traumatised way by getting diarrhoea. Luckily I was off work yesrerday so spent all day giving him cuddles and extra walks. He seemed ok by bedtime so we put him to bed. This morning I got up, went downstairs and was greeted by pools of diarrhoea all over the kitchen floor. We have patio doors with vertical blinds and he'd been pawing at them trying to et out. Again he didnt bark or make any noise to let us know. He looked so ashamed of himself. I didnt tell him off, just cleaned it up. Its the first accident he's had since he came to live here.

I don't care about the blinds or the kitchen floor. I just feel so bad that's he's been distressed twice in a row and doesnt let us know.

bluebeary

aww poor baby cd, im sure hell be fine with lots of cuddles, is he of nervous disposition anyway ?

your not worst fur mummy in the world, im still traumatised after our three hour drive from glasgow to inverness last weekend with jess our cat, we had him in his carry case which was hard enough in the first place and two hours into the journey with only and hour to go he really wanted to go to the loo but we couldnt let him out for his own safety in the car and it would have been impossible to get him back into his carry case again

really felt bad as he went to the loo and had to stay in his case till we could get him inside the flat

his whole lower half was soaked through and he smelt so bad poor soul, i cleaned him up in the bathroom with water and gentle shampoo but he looked such a sorry state with his tale limp and wet

it took a couple of days for him to adjust and come out of hiding in the loo but hes back to his old self now, thank goodness

he is a nervous cat who hides from strangers and not as easy to adapt as our other cat lily but hes back to normal now

krlyr

bluebeary wrote: »

aww poor baby cd, im sure hell be fine with lots of cuddles, is he of nervous disposition anyway ?

your not worst fur mummy in the world, im still traumatised after our three hour drive from glasgow to inverness last weekend with jess our cat, we had him in his carry case which was hard enough in the first place and two hours into the journey with only and hour to go he really wanted to go to the loo but we couldnt let him out for his own safety in the car and it would have been impossible to get him back into his carry case again

really felt bad as he went to the loo and had to stay in his case till we could get him inside the flat

his whole lower half was soaked through and he smelt so bad poor soul, i cleaned him up in the bathroom with water and gentle shampoo but he looked such a sorry state with his tale limp and wet

it took a couple of days for him to adjust and come out of hiding in the loo but hes back to his old self now, thank goodness

he is a nervous cat who hides from strangers and not as easy to adapt as our other cat lily but hes back to normal now

Bit late now, but for long journeys with cats, I've heard of dog crates being used. Enough space for a bed, a litter tray, and a bit of space for them to stretch their legs, but still nice and secure in the car.

pawsies

I would move the microwave into another room or replace it if it is faulty. See if that helps

codemonkey

pawsies wrote: »

I would move the microwave into another room or replace it if it is faulty. See if that helps

We've unplugged it as soon as we discovered it is clearly evil and intent on taking over the world. Sadly that was too late for CD though.

Francesanne

codemonkey wrote: »

We've unplugged it as soon as we discovered it is clearly evil and intent on taking over the world. Sadly that was too late for CD though.

I'm sure your boy will be back to normal quickly but really do understand your feelings of guilt. My dear old dog (now departed) had the same reaction to the smoke alarm when the battery started to run down. He use to shake uncontrollably for ages. Invested in alarm that's meant to last years without changing the battery & thankfully never had that problem again.

QuackQuackOops

so he was so distressed by the microwave that he soiled the home and your oh had to sleep with him to stop the shakes?

and then the next night you shut him back in in the room where the distress was caused in the first place?

seriously?

GBNI

I think I'd need more on the dog's history before commenting on it, but I will say with my rescue dog if she reacts badly to something I don't make a big deal out of it as this can end up making the fear worse. She thinks, oh mummy is cuddling me, it must be right to be scared. That's just how I feel with my girl though and as I don't know what your dog is like, I don't know what works with it.

tea_lover

QuackQuackOops wrote: »

so he was so distressed by the microwave that he soiled the home and your oh had to sleep with him to stop the shakes?

and then the next night you shut him back in in the room where the distress was caused in the first place?

seriously?

You're on a roll today - first women who dare to go to work are evil harpies 'palming off' their children and now this.

How about you try saying something useful or nothing at all.

RachyD_3

GBNI wrote: »

I think I'd need more on the dog's history before commenting on it, but I will say with my rescue dog if she reacts badly to something I don't make a big deal out of it as this can end up making the fear worse. She thinks, oh mummy is cuddling me, it must be right to be scared. That's just how I feel with my girl though and as I don't know what your dog is like, I don't know what works with it.

I think I agree with what has been said above. My rescue pup (who's now 17 lol) would be worse with cuddles and hugs in the original situation. A little delayed sympathy, coupled with a lot of acting as normal, would be how I would have handled the situation had it been us.

Don't beat yourself up, you weren't to know and he will be fine

SeaLion_2

I think you need to do something to break the link. Try leaving the radio on in the kitchen on low (providing he is not scared of the radio) or move him to another room temporarily.

Not being the voice of evil here, but you could even try taking him upstairs with you if he's not too huge...mmmm I think CD has jedi powers and is controlling me remotely

He may not be a complainer. My own dog will never let us know if there's problem. Its just not his way, my guess would be it didn't work when he was little with his first owners so he never learnt to ask. He's only relatively recently started asking when he's lost a biccie somewhere he can't reach, and he's 5.