Grandma's will - need advice

Mojisola

Mojisola wrote: »

I would start by chasing up the Co-op. If they put the advert in, they were probably the executors.

Mojisola wrote: »

Initially, I'd just ask whether they were executors of the will and explain that you are a grandchild.

If there was a will and it went to probate, you could buy a copy of it - https://www.justice.gov.uk/courts/probate/copies-of-grants-wills

angiepunchi wrote: »

I just wanted some advice and someone has given me it so... I'm happy with the advice I been given and now able to do something to find out what happened.

Glad the advice was of use.

leespot

angiepunchi wrote: »

Mojisola maybe the estate WAS dealt with properly, and it went to my gran's friend. And my mum wasn't lying. And I didn't cut off my gran. Maybe she just had a really kind friend who looked after her.

You don't need to understand it. It's not really your business. I just wanted some advice and someone has given me it so... I'm happy with the advice I been given and now able to do something to find out what happened.

With all respect, nobody on here really needs to know what happened or who got the estate, only I do, to make sure that it didn't go to a fake person which has been worrying me.

Wow. Gratitude at its finest here. Maybe people were trying to understand your situation, in case something similar comes along on the forums, in which case they can apply the help being requested? They have helped you, why should they not seek to understand a little more in order to pay it forward?

angiepunchi

Mojisola I wasn't telling you that you gave me advice... someone else private messaged me and really did offer helpful advice and went out of their way. I have thanked them.

Leespot - why am I being grateful to her? Why should I be? Have you read the comments she's written to me before? I've asked her twice to leave me alone and stop commenting me. She made me cry with something she said about my gran on another post. Will not leave me alone and stop speculating. I AM grateful to everyone else who has been genuinely helpful. HOW HAS THIS PERSON HELPED ME... I think she's been thoughtless and you probably haven't read all her comments and if you did maybe you would think before you decide to criticise me.

I AM NOT POSTING ANY MORE ON HERE AND WANT THE THREAD TO BE CLOSED PLEASE. I only wanted help not to be judged or people speculate about my family.

leespot

angiepunchi wrote: »

Mojisola I wasn't telling you that you gave me advice... someone else private messaged me and really did offer helpful advice and went out of their way. I have thanked them.

Leespot - why am I being grateful to her? Why should I be? Have you read the comments she's written to me before? I've asked her twice to leave me alone and stop commenting me. She made me cry with something she said about my gran on another post. Will not leave me alone and stop speculating. I AM grateful to everyone else who has been genuinely helpful. HOW HAS THIS PERSON HELPED ME... I think she's been thoughtless and you probably haven't read all her comments and if you did maybe you would think before you decide to criticise me.

I AM NOT POSTING ANY MORE ON HERE AND WANT THE THREAD TO BE CLOSED PLEASE. I only wanted help not to be judged or people speculate about my family.

This is an open forum, and whilst I fully understand your original query, you must accept that by posting on here you are open to unsolicited comments. You don't simply get to choose who you receive the advice from. I haven't read all of the replies from the user to you, but the bullet points above summarise some form of help at least. If that help hasn't been delivered in a manner that you appreciate, well, that is down to you and your interpretation.

Some people will ask questions to fully understand your situation - but you seem reluctant in coming forward with extra information. Quite often people don't just ask you things for the sake of it, but to make sure the advice being given is going to be relevant. There might be, of course, the odd nosey person but that is inherent with using an open forum. Some people have a lot of spare time on their hands (happily I am not one!)

Glad you got the information you needed from somebody, and I do hope it brings you some form of closure.

For future reference, please remember that this is an open forum that pretty much anyone can use - do not take every comment here or in person to heart or too seriously. You'll be in for a hell of a rough ride in life if you do.

angiepunchi

Hi, thanks for your reply thats a nice way to put things in perspective. I dont use forums at all and this was the first time i ever used one. You might have read that lady's comments but i did originally put this thread in the wrong place, so on that original one she wrote some pretty personal stuff like for example that my nan probably didn't leave me anything because i was living abroad and she felt i had cut her out of my life. It's really upsetting to hear something like that because i didn't know she was so ill and of course wouldn't of been abroad if i knew and would have flown home... its hard not to take things to heart when people being very callous like that i asked her twice after that to leave me alone and not comment on my stuff anymore, but she kept doing it which is what upset me most

I did get some really good advice but i dont think im going to use the forums often on here because its hard to read stuff like that.

Mojisola

angiepunchi wrote: »

You might have read that lady's comments but i did originally put this thread in the wrong place, so on that original one she wrote some pretty personal stuff like for example that my nan probably didn't leave me anything because i was living abroad and she felt i had cut her out of my life. It's really upsetting to hear something like that because i didn't know she was so ill and of course wouldn't of been abroad if i knew and would have flown home... its hard not to take things to heart when people being very callous like that i asked her twice after that to leave me alone and not comment on my stuff anymore, but she kept doing it which is what upset me most

You said -
I was living abroad in 2008 and 2009 and actually didn't know she was dying.

My mum threw away letters if she sent them to us, but she didn't call me and tell me or ask anyone to tell me.

It came as a shock, I literally got posted an invitation to her funeral out of the blue.

My mum said she wouldn't be leaving us anything as she left it all to an american lady who had befriended her.

And I posted -
If you were old enough to live abroad, couldn't you have kept in touch with your Gran directly?

It may well be that your Gran thought you had cut yourself from her and left her estate elsewhere.

I'm sorry if that upset you but it was a possible scenario for why your Gran left her estate to someone else.

Note that I didn't say that you had done anything wrong but that your Gran might have thought that you had cut yourself off.