I see lots of help and advice for carer leaving but what about disabled person left ?

welshgranny

Hi, sorry if this is the wrong forum. Things are really difficult between my husband and myself and the only reason he is staying with me is that he wants to keep the house but cannot afford it without my dla, mobility allowance and sda. I can see lots of advice for the main carer leaving the disabled person and i understand that it is not a good place for someone to find themselves in caring for someone who is disabled, but please can anyone tell me how/if I could manage on my own if he does decide to go or if I have to leave. As I mentioned I receive dla, highest rate mobility and severe dissabilment as I have athritis, fibro, depression and heart problem. I have family but would be unable to live with any of them. Where would I live or would I be on the streets I would be able to live on the money I get from my dissability but ddo not know where to go???? Sorry for the long post.

prawn_mayo

If you were to move out councils have contingencies in place to rehouse vulnerable people quite quick depending on your age, they have sheltered complexes for people with mobility problems, you wan't be on the streets.

Savvy_Sue

It could be worth you phoning Shelter for some advice (or ShelterCymru if that's where you are).

You should be classed as vulnerable, which increases your priority, but there might be a risk of you being declared intentionally homeless if you choose to leave the marital home, especially if you part-own it. Also if you want to move somewhere else, perhaps to be closer to family, you'd have to establish that you have a local connection to that area.

Cyclamen

I am guessing that as he is your carer you need support with practical things also.. so maybe look into getting a social services assessment for equipment and a 'direct payment' to pay for a carer if you need it. that way if you choose to move you have support with meal prep/personal care.

I have care needs an dlived alone with them for a number of years before meeting my husband and marrying.. i still get care help now as he can't support me fully and i wouldn't want him as a carer. Perhaps looking at some help will take the pressure of the relationship?

good luck