Everything Leads Into The (new year) Elite thread

Thrifty_Sister

queen_of_cheap wrote: »

I've just had my nephew on the phone sobbing his heart out and I'm sat here in tears for him

He's staying with my brother this weekend. He's broke one of my brothers girlfriends sons toys, but he'd only tell me which one.

His mum is horrible. She only had kids for the benefits. She does nothing but yell at him constantly. I'm told that's all she did at Christmas too. For some reason she's got a bee in her bonnet about me and won't key me see him. So he was obviously scared to tell his dad about this toy because he's frightened he'll get yelled at. There has been fibbing going on.

Social services have been involved but about a different matter. As much as I don't want to, I think I'm going to have to get them involved again, but I need solid proof to go to them with and I can't get to see him unless it's through my brother.

I want him to have a better life than this, it's the least he deserves, but I can't do anything and I don't know what to do.

I'm going to go and see him in the morning, but a couple of hours isn't even going to scratch the surface.

What do I do?

Very difficult situation - but be careful as it sounds like he regards you as a friend/ally and he needs you to turn to. How old is he?

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Sunshinemummy

aau1 wrote: »

Don't give them money! :eek:

Give them giftcards from T and pocket the points :money:

There is a reason I love you!

Then again mum would tell everyone I got them free! She probably thinks I get money for free... well sometimes we do!

:D:D:D:D:D

Dizzy_Ditzy

mhoc wrote: »

Is he in a position to ring childline himself - do you see him on his own, can he get to a phone?
Also is there a teacher at school he trusts that he can talk to - school should be involved as well.
Such a bad position to be in, so sad.

Pretty sure he can't access a phone I can ask him about his teachers

Thrifty_Sister wrote: »

Very difficult situation - but be careful as it sounds like he regards you as a friend/ally and he needs you to turn to. How old is he?

He's 10. He's a very immature 10. It's knowing what I can say to him without him going back and telling his mum. I know I can't be horrible about her but away from him, I want to cave her head in

Sunshinemummy

never_too_old wrote: »

Im the same.I make sure my phone is on loud so she can get hold of me and she has to wake me up when she's home :rotfl:

I am no longer worried when they go out drinking, but I am relieved when they return.

I do worry about DS3 he started working last week, it is 'as and when needed' job with explosives, he has been training for ages to do it. The night after his shift, someone was killed doing the same job... my son is working again tonight. :(:(:(

I would love to wrap him in cotton wool, but it would do more harm than good. I need to learn to live with my anxiety!

:(:(:(

mhoc

ilovetoshop wrote: »

I am just like that an end up giving more , last year we spoilt everyone but this year I have decided to give money as a few people upset me ..with comments that were relayed back to me like..well I bet she only gave me that cause she got it cheap or I wonder if that was free. It made me feel bad and thought well I shall just give them money and then they have the exact value staring at them..although I actually should just give them sod all :rotfl:

Go to the oxfam gifts unwrapped website - lots under a tenner. Or if any of them live near a zoo or animal sanctuary get them an adopt an animal pack or WWF (choose any one off ammount and print off a certificate) or YHA membership - very cheap for the under 26s - all charity gifts so if they complain they will look very miserable.
Tell your kith and kin no one liked your gift choices so now you are only giving charity gifts as charities appreciate your money.

ilovetoshop

aau1 wrote: »

Don't give them money! :eek:

Give them giftcards from T and pocket the points :money:

Well there is that but they would probably think I got them free as well

ilovetoshop

Sunshinemummy wrote: »

There is a reason I love you!

Then again mum would tell everyone I got them free! She probably thinks I get money for free... well sometimes we do!

:D:D:D:D:D

Haha same

Jelly_Biactol

Thrifty_Sister wrote: »

What a horrible thing to happen - this womans customer service is appalling and as someone who used to work in the flower business, all I can say is that she shouldn't be dealing with customers in this manner and doesan't deserve your sons custom. If you can summon up a bit of anger I would be ringing her and saying how much her attitude has upset you :mad::mad:

Enterprise_1701C wrote: »

So glad the flowers got delivered, personally I would still put in a complaint though, heartless Woman !

So would I, mhoc, assuming you feel up to doing so.
It sounds like you were speaking with someone who shouldn't have any dealings with the public, as TS says; the company are probably not aware of how this employee may be damaging their business.

(I'd been watching 'Dumbo' this afternoon, a film I hadn't seen since I was little - and it's one that can bring a tear to a glass eye, I can tell you! Then you reported back on the thankfully happy outcome - gulp!:))

mhoc

queen_of_cheap wrote: »

Pretty sure he can't access a phone I can ask him about his teachers



He's 10. He's a very immature 10. It's knowing what I can say to him without him going back and telling his mum. I know I can't be horrible about her but away from him, I want to cave her head in

I think through school might be the way to go - he is probably already on the schools list of children at risk if SS have been involved before.