The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

Honey_Bear

cathybird wrote: »

oh no that was me!! I feel left out now *sobs loudly*

Glad you loved Barcelona though Honey Bear - it's a great place - I love Miro too - we missed you though!!!

I'm really, really sorry, CathyBird! Credit where credit's due - it was actually that comment of yours that made me realise how much I value this thread, and like everyone who contributes. You say the loveliest things. The whole Miro thing was a complete revelation - if you get the opportunity to go to the Miro Foundation in Barcelona I cannot recommend it highly enough. It's beautifully done and in the most amazing setting.

Ah Lulabelle, evenings in with just the cat (and dog in my case) for company. *bliss* Adding alcohol to the mix never actually made it any better, although a large bar of whole nut chocolate always did. I do love OH and I enjoy his company but we'd both lived on our own for quite a few years before we got together, and when we moved in, having the conversation about allowing each other space to themselves was a tricky one to approach because some people just don't get it. Fortunately we both did, and we've been revelling in our individual solo nights in ever since.

25/28 please, Shaggy.

Poor_Single_lady

Honey Bear I loved your post on People saying unkind things when they have drunk too much. This is/was definately me, it happened a lot last year but I credit this thread with making that a thing of the past so far. It's a horrible feeling both to be the person that said it and the person it is said to.

The thing is recently I have been drinking less, remembering more nights and conversations and getting more anxious because my brain has more to get anxious about.

For me I am trying to drink with my closest friends and family rather than giant nights out with lots of people. Easier said than done tho.

Glad you enjoyed your holiday and I love the idea of an extravagant purchase with your money saved from alcohol.

fakeplastictwee

Hi everyone. I've had a few days AWOL due to working away and not being near my laptop. Sorry to see a few people feeling down in the dumps over the last few days. I'm still not feeling quite right myself, I'm not sure why. Finding it hard to feel motivated to do much, and the persistent rain in Manchester feels dismal, so that's not helping.

Wecome back HB. Sorry to hear that some of your friends were upsetting you. As you say, you know you've been in their place so don't take it too personally. I was having the same worry after a drinking session a couple of weeks ago.

I was AF on Wednesday and last night, so I'm up to 12 AFDs for this month. If I stay AF for the rest of Feb then I will meet my target. I'm going to sit and think hard about March's target though as I still feel like I've probably drank too much this month overall.

Barny1979

20/21 AFDs for me today

cathybird

Honey_Bear wrote: »

I'm really, really sorry, CathyBird! Credit where credit's due - it was actually that comment of yours that made me realise how much I value this thread, and like everyone who contributes. You say the loveliest things. The whole Miro thing was a complete revelation - if you get the opportunity to go to the Miro Foundation in Barcelona I cannot recommend it highly enough. It's beautifully done and in the most amazing setting.

Awww Honey Bear - no need to apologize! There are lots of people posting on this thread so it can be hard to remember who said what and it really doesn't matter, I was joking about the sobbing, honest Thanks though, and for your kind words. I haven't been to Barcelona in ages, must put it on the list at once.

fakeplastictwee

Another one for me tonight takes me to 13 AFDs please.

I've had a realisation tonight. I've had a rare Saturday night to myself and have found that by 9pm I get quite bored with myself. I spent 2.5 years single up until a year ago, with the final year being almost totally alone as I had moved away from friends and family, and I thought I had learnt how to be alone in my own company. To an extent I did this, but I've realised this evening that a big part of that was due to drinking. Maybe it was because I was lonely. I knew I was lonely, but I had never made the link with alcohol. I'm not saying it's purely down to that, but my own company definitely felt more fun when I had a glass of wine in hand. This probably explains why I sometimes feel down when I'm alone and sober, especially at weekends.

Poor_Single_lady

19/21 for tonight

Having a much needed lazy weekend.

Honey_Bear

It's strange, PSL, normally I can shrug off what people say when they've had a few but there was an underlying ongoing 'thing' in both cases. There will always be things that are better left unsaid - and without over-thinking it I'm kind of done with people who can't deal with their own stuff without having a pop at others. I just feel too tired of their emotional luggage to be bothered with it if it's always going to come out unpleasantly when they're in their cups.

fakeplastictwee wrote: »

I'm not saying it's purely down to that, but my own company definitely felt more fun when I had a glass of wine in hand. This probably explains why I sometimes feel down when I'm alone and sober, especially at weekends.

The loneliness thing. I suspect that's why a few people glug a bit when they're on their own. Most of the time when something's out of kilter in our lives identifying the problem is the trickiest bit. Now you know that, is there a straightforward, simple thing you can change to stave those feelings off FPT?

Are you okay, Maman? You're not posting as much as you used to and I miss your words of wisdom.

Anyone making any commitments for Lent?

26/31 please, Shaggy.

Green_Karen

24 AF days for Feb and could I please set a target of 20 for March Shaggy? Thanks.

cathybird

Afternoon all, 20/21 for me please.