Divorce and name change?

Seanymph

Can you order church ones from there too Mojisola? Not that I want another one you understand, but I wondered.

Mojisola

Seanymph wrote: »

Can you order church ones from there too Mojisola? Not that I want another one you understand, but I wondered.

I'm not sure what you mean. All marriages have to be registered with the GRO and it's a copy of that entry that is the marriage certificate.
https://www.gro.gov.uk/gro/content/certificates/images/Marriage%20Cert%20PDF.pdf

Seanymph

huh, I thought they were different at a church and at a registry office - I went back to the church I got married in and they did me a duplicate, never occurred to me they were all registered in the same place.

Every days a school day.

tea_lover

You can call yourself whatever you want, married or otherwise. Don't fall for con websites that try to tell you you'll need to pay for deedpoll changes. Just use whichever name you prefer. I've been divorced for 12 years and still use my maiden name and married name....sometimes just as the fancy takes me lol.

vodkachick68

I've just got divorced and I'm keeping my ex husbands surname. This is because of the kids and cos I can't be bothered to change names and I hated my maiden surname as well!! We are still amicable which does help,if we had parted horribly I might have thought about changing back.

LazyLizzie

Seanymph wrote: »

you go back to where you got married for a copy certificate if you need it.

I found it strange I had to send mine to the court and never got it back - then needed it to prove various things afterwwards.

the church got to charge me again for another one.

The place I got married is about 4 hours away from where I live now, so that's not really an option!

I'm still confused though(sorry!). So it's legal and okay for me to use either name? If I wanted to rent a house, it would be fine to put the name down as my non married name, and have the credit checks in that name? My ex husband had a lot of debt, so I wouldn't want to use that name in case it effected(or affected?) my credit score... is that going to effect it either way?

Someone said this:

The challenge comes around banks etc who want proof that you are known by this name and thats where marriage certificates, divorces, deed poll etc come into play.

So does that mean I still will need to change it by deed poll to make it official or something? Or will the marriage certificate, divorce decree thingy and my birth certificate be okay?
I wish I never got married now, or that I didn't take his surname!

Thank you everyone for all the help, I really appreciate it, and sorry I'm a lemon and don't understand some things/get confused easily!

Shelldean

not read whole thread but if you need a copy of any cert, you can apply to the register office where it was registered and for a fee they will send you a copy. You don't know to attend in person.


You can do it online but be aware of scam sites, that charge you extra make sure you go through the gov site.

Seanymph

you would need a deed poll if you decided to rename yourself titula bananhammock (unless of course that was either your married or maiden name, but I've deliberately chosen that because I thought it would be unlikely - apologies to all titula's on the board).

So, if you pick a name out of a hat - then deed poll.

to stay in your married name, nothing.

To go back to your maiden name then show people your divorce certificate just like you showed them your marriage certificate to change it up.

Mojisola

LazyLizzie wrote: »

I'm still confused though(sorry!). So it's legal and okay for me to use either name? If I wanted to rent a house, it would be fine to put the name down as my non married name, and have the credit checks in that name?

Legal and financial documents usually ask whether you have ever been known by another name - if you were using your married name, you'd answer with your birth name; if you go back to using your birth name, you'd give your married name.

Annisele

LazyLizzie wrote: »

I'm still confused though(sorry!). So it's legal and okay for me to use either name? If I wanted to rent a house, it would be fine to put the name down as my non married name, and have the credit checks in that name? My ex husband had a lot of debt, so I wouldn't want to use that name in case it effected(or affected?) my credit score... is that going to effect it either way?

It's completely fine for you to use either name so long as you don't try to defraud anyone.

With credit checks, you'll usually be asked about other names you've been known by. Then, you'll have to disclose both names - hiding one of them to try to make your credit look better counts as fraud.

Whether your ex husband's debt affects you depends on whether you're financially linked to him, not on whether you share a surname. (The Smiths and Khans of this world would be a bit stuffed if sharing a surname was enough!).

I'm married, but I'm still Miss MaidenName professionally. I use Mrs MarriedName for a lot of non work stuff (eg my GP), but I've never had a problem with people accepting either name. I did have once confuse a bank clerk by being married but still using the title 'Miss', but that's very much the exception.