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Communication problems with ex

littleredhen
littleredhen Posts: 3,357 Forumite
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edited 1 January 2014 at 10:39PM in Marriage, relationships & families
I don't really want to drone on but whenever my ex and I communicate by email (we don't speak) we always, without fail, misinterpret each other and it descends into an argument.
We split two years ago
But my question is, why can we not communicate?
He always makes me feel angry if I talk to him on the phone or in person, because of his attitude so now we just email but whenever we do it's hopeless.
Any pearls of wisdom out there:cool:
The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open.:o

A winner listens, a loser just waits until it is their turn to talk:)

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  • Tiglath
    Tiglath Posts: 3,816 Forumite
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    Do you need to communicate because of children? Keep it strictly about the kids, type an email but go away for 10 minutes and then reread before sending. You can't control what he sends but you can decide your reaction to it.
    "Save £12k in 2019" #120 - £100,699.57/£100,000
  • littleredhen
    littleredhen Posts: 3,357 Forumite
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    Yes it is about kids but it is never as straightforward as that
    I had a quiet period for a while and I don't want to give too much away for fear of him knowing it's me but we are now arguing over the house, his emotional blackmail is epic, I don't engage but then other things crop up and because it's about kids I have to reply but it just descends into nastiness
    The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open.:o

    A winner listens, a loser just waits until it is their turn to talk:)
  • Tiglath
    Tiglath Posts: 3,816 Forumite
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    In that case, keep it short and factual, and don't rise to the bait. If he tries to veer the conversation off course into an argument, return to factual arrangements etc.
    "Save £12k in 2019" #120 - £100,699.57/£100,000
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