going to the pub xmas day

red_devil

Do any of your guests feel the need to slip out to the pub.

do you think its rude.

hazyjo

I think it's very much 'what people have been brought up with'. I don't do it, and wouldn't like it, but for someone else maybe they've always gone to have a pint with their dad, brother, mates, whatever. If it's something they'd always done, or their dad had done before them, I'd lump it - so long as it didn't result in me ringing, texting or going in and dragging them out by the ear...

If they say they'll be home at X time, they should be home at that time. And that shouldn't mean 5 mins before dinner is on or off the table.

Jx

flutterby_lil

For the past 4 years we have gone to the pub for an hour before going for dinner at my sisters, would never go somewhere and then nip out to the pub, I think it is rude yes!

ska_lover

red_devil wrote: »

Do any of your guests feel the need to slip out to the pub.

do you think its rude.

.

To be fair, christmas day is a lonnnnnnnnnnng day, and families tend to visit for extended periods of time - sometimes from literally early morning until nearly bed time.

IMO, extended visits, (8 hours or more), on Christmas day can be less than fun. Sitting on an overcrowded settee, watching what they want on tv, just generally doing christmas their way. Having to wait to be offered a drink etc..It doesn't make for a brilliant day for me, I must admit and an offer of a trip to the pub - I would jump at it.

Might just be me being an old grump though! :beer:

Hermia

I think it depends on each family. I think it is rude if one person gets left with all the cooking, cleaning and looking after kids whilst others go down the pub.

Okydoky25

If I was cooking for a large amount of guest I would be more than happy for them to go to the pub and be out of my way tbh

Laurajo_2

For a few years, when we had large family gatherings, the blokes would all troop to the pub for an hour before lunch for a game of doms and a couple of pints leaving the ladies to sort out dinner - probably shockingly sexist, but it was a tradition going back generations in OHs family.

It actually turned out quite well for me - it gave me a chance to 'bond' with the female members of the family when we were first courting...however, as the older generation have 'stepped down' from the christmas dinner prep and the baton has been passed to us, they haven't gone for the last couple of years - although this could be due to the landlord of the local pub leaving (he was a personal friend) and one who they dislike taking his place, rather than any attempt at being enlightened modern men!

claire16c

This would never happen in my family.

We normally have family come on boxing day, and they arrive around 1pm, so we have lunch straight away, or do pressies and then lunch, and then we play games etc. There is no opportunity or need to go to the pub.

However in DHs family I know his brother once sneaked off to the pub I think on boxing day for a while. I guess his wife didnt mind. Whereas my DH has no interest in going to the pub hed rather be at home.

So I guess it depends on your family. In mind that would be seen as totally rude.

thorsoak

Each and every family has its own traditions; what is considered totally rude in one family is considered totally acceptable in another.

When two people become a couple they have to negotiate which traditions they keep and which they discard ..and it is up to the people themselves to decide, not an internet forum.

This_Year

red_devil wrote: »

Do any of your guests feel the need to slip out to the pub.

do you think its rude.

What a good idea. I'll join them!

maman

This_Year wrote: »

What a good idea. I'll join them!

:rotfl:

It's hard to answer without knowing the circumstances.

If someone just sneaked out on their own without saying when they'd be back/inviting anyone else then I would think it rude. If you mean just going to the pub at Christmas then I don't have a problem as long as it's agreed.