Christmas Day Present Giving Problem! Please help?

Lequirk_2

That is exactly what i would do too. Give the gifts, but also say you had already bought them and that you want them to have them anyway because they are so generously hosting Christmas for you

pigpen

Just take them.. and maybe save 1 small thing each for you from OH and one for OH from you.. so you all have something to open?


Just say you had already bought them and didn't want to save them because you are too excited.. make it all about you


And they are gifts as a thank you for having you stay and to the single friends because you can and you wanted to because they are special to you.

lb364

Why don't you just sneak them under the tree 'from Santa'? That way you've just made it a bit of Christmas fun and not formally a gift from you.

I love buying presents too so know exactly how you feel

DigForVictory

Here's where I'd ring the husband... If he's "the sensible one" & his missus caught you on the hop, a quick word with him will give him time & space to ease her & the other guests past this with no ruffled feathers.
Have a wonderful day!

karen1573

I am going to swim against the current here and say, DO NOT give them.

You are a guest in HER home, and she has made it clear that they don't want gift-giving. You don't know exactly what's prompted that, so I believe the gracious and kindly thing to do is to go along with her wishes.

You will have other occasions to give the gifts you bought - either their birthdays, or to someone else. Why upset her by going against what she has specifically asked? If you feel like you HAVE to give something, bring a really nice bottle of wine or champagne, and say that's your contribution to dinner.

Just think what will happen if you turn up with gifts and your friends don't. They will feel crap. Honestly, I've been there and it isn't pretty.

candygirl

Bayonetta wrote: »

Why not give them as you are leaving, as a thank you for having you over? I'm sure that'd be appreciated!

Fab idea x

7roland8

Think I'm with Karen - the other couple may not bring gifts and to be one sided giving them won't spread joy but make them feel uncomfortable.
Keep the stuff for their birthdays or just give something as a little thank-you at the end.

Or get a card game or something you can all play after lunch.

flamingo747

I like the idea of taking a gift each for you and oh. I'd probably blame Santa too lol

I think with more notice it's fine not to do gifts, but not last minute.