Real-life MMD: Should my replacement on theatre trip contribute to ticket cost?

julie777

I had no idea that theatres might give refunds in case of illness!
That would be the way to go if you wanted some money back.#
I have often missed trips due to my Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and just give the ticket to a friend or offer it on Freecycle as it is always short notice.

wiogs

pippinpuss wrote: »

Of course they should pay for the ticket. Who in their right mind would think they would get it for free?

The person who was offered the chance to use the OPs ticket I would guess.

I have in the past given away tickets to events I couldn't make and I certainly haven't asked for or expected payment.

A simple thanks is enough anything else is a bonus.

Oysters

Unless mentioned at the point of offer then you should not ask for payment. If the person had really wanted to go they would have bought tickets themselves. However it is rather rude of the recipient not to offer some money or send a gift.

tallgirld

When you asked if she knew anyone who 'wanted' your ticket this implies you were giving it away.
It would have been clearer if you had asked if she knew anyone who would like to 'buy' your ticket.
You could always ask for a contribution retrospectively....Maybe they are planning on giving you something. Don't hold your breath though!

grayme-m

I think threads like this ought to have voting buttons to avoid five pages of identical comments of 'if you didn't ask for money up front you can't expect someone to know you wanted it' (which I'd have voted for).

stmartinsdiver

Unless you made it clear you were expecting payment then the recipient may have assumed it was a case of it being giving it away rather than going to waste. However, it sounds as though you've not so much as received a 'Thank you'. If this is the case I think it is incredibly bad manners not to acknowledge what may have been seen as a gift - and an expensive one at that. I would simply ask the organiser if the 'replacement' enjoyed the play as you have not heard anything from them and leave it at that.
A guilty conscience may then kick-in, but don't hold your breath.

Griffster77

I wouldn't dream of taking someone else's ticket like that without paying at least some it back. I'd at least offer what I thought I could afford.

If they couldn't find a replacement, then fair enough, I'd just swallow the cost but if someone else goes instead of me, I'd probably expect at least some of it back - I understand that the reason the replacement is going might be that they couldn't afford to go at full price so you might not get all of it back.

aloiseb

Can you say something like, "I'm going to be booking some more tickets for the theatre soon and I wondered if I could ask you for that £20 - you never know, I may actually be able to go this time!"

hmmm, may not work.......also, they may have genuinely thought you were offering them for free, and be upset. Depends what you said at the time.

It would be nice if everyone was polite and offered to pay, but sadly, these people didn't, and they probably freeloaded off their grannies too and didn't write thank you letters.

Still. Perhaps they had some appalling people sitting in front of them throughout the theatre performance, whispering and fidgeting and banging bags about. The rudeness quota would then be nicely balanced wouldn't it!:D

adrienne1945

The person offered the ticket might not have been going on the trip because she couldn't afford to. So to ask now for something that was offered for no payment would be really unfair. You should have made it plain at the time that you didn't want to GIVE it away but wanted something for it.

meher

it is always better to be straightforward instead of playing mindgames

so if you wanted money, ask; if not, it is petty to expect