Bridesmaid's dress dilemma

DigForVictory

Your friend is in the uncomfortable situation of having one bridesmaid knowingly awkward, one unknowingly awkward & one happy camper.

I suggest her mother, or another female of the family (perhaps even yourself OP?) get on the phone & put it to the oldest & youngest that they either play nice or beat a swift & graceful retreat. The eldest in particular has behaved in an unfortunate manner - having been there, helped pick & now wanting something else.

A more assertive bride would dump this one forthwith - by deploying a friend, the bride can hold that door wide open & see if her choice has the grace to recant & cooperate fully or go before she's shoved.

The younger one can get a similar call, but phrased more gently given that she wasn't part of the original choice. There's the dress, wear it & smile or step aside gracefully (verbally to me, right now & in something charmingly apologetic, in hand writing, to the bride.)

As a phone call to the dressmaker *now* may see the fabric for a size 18 convert to something more flexible...

Jobseeeker

The bride picks the bridesmaid dresses. Its not unusual for bridesmaids to dislike the dress they're given to wear but you just get on with it. All 3 girls of different ages/sizes are not going to pick out the same one.

patchwork_cat

DigForVictory wrote: »

Your friend is in the uncomfortable situation of having one bridesmaid knowingly awkward, one unknowingly awkward & one happy camper.

I suggest her mother, or another female of the family (perhaps even yourself OP?) get on the phone & put it to the oldest & youngest that they either play nice or beat a swift & graceful retreat. The eldest in particular has behaved in an unfortunate manner - having been there, helped pick & now wanting something else.

A more assertive bride would dump this one forthwith - by deploying a friend, the bride can hold that door wide open & see if her choice has the grace to recant & cooperate fully or go before she's shoved.

The younger one can get a similar call, but phrased more gently given that she wasn't part of the original choice. There's the dress, wear it & smile or step aside gracefully (verbally to me, right now & in something charmingly apologetic, in hand writing, to the bride.)

As a phone call to the dressmaker *now* may see the fabric for a size 18 convert to something more flexible...

You can not 'dump' a bridesmaid in all situations particularly when she is going to be your step daughter!

Bella73

I would say sorry but tough, this is the dress either you wear it or you cannot be bridesmaid. If the 15 year old is that fussy she has 6 months to lose some weight. Sorry to be blunt but that's the way is it, it might teach her is she wants choice she should have attended the shopping trip.