Child maintenance query

houseimprover

Mojisola wrote: »

I can. If the absent parent was paying an agreed amount (whether CSA or private) and he/she gets a pay rise, it's only fair that the amount he/she contributes towards the children should increase.

Disagree, the father may have decided to compromise their living to give more money than needed to the children, thus any payrises should be in benefit of the father.

Again., to little information for you to make the assumptions you have.

mum2one

also if you went via the csa - your ex could stop payments till the csa set the figure and this could take upto 12 weeks.

The csa would take into account any children in the household even if there are provided for by the other father.... my ex met someone with children and they take priority over any csa payment my child recieves... (which is the grand sum of £5 per week), x

Mojisola

aventurine wrote: »

He promised he would increase the amount if and when he had any pay rises.

houseimprover wrote: »

Disagree, the father may have decided to compromise their living to give more money than needed to the children, thus any payrises should be in benefit of the father.

Again., to little information for you to make the assumptions you have.

aventurine gave the information in the first post.

DigForVictory

aventurine wrote: »

However, last night at a parents evening we were both attending, I heard him telling an old friend we bumped into that he'd had another promotion at the end of last year.

This worries me - as might he have been saving face?

That said, still worth asking. He can always say no.

Melaniep101

NAR wrote: »

As it has for your ex and his new family! Perhaps you should be looking at how YOU could improve your household income and thus improve your financial situation, rather than look to your ex to solve the problems.

I totally agree with this ^

OP, are you able to get a few hours extra work?

Fosterdog

What you've also got to look at is what else he provides for them.

Does he buy them anything they need while they are with him? Does he provide clothes that they then bring home to your house? Does he help towards school supplies and uniform and trips? Does he give them any pocket money?

If he does any of those he is providing more than just what he is giving you and all those things are supposed to be covered by the maintenance.

Laurajo_2

I think it's worth asking...I fully appreciate that you don't want to upset the applecart, bit IF he's paying less than he would be under CSA (which of course, we don't know) I think it would be worth the question.