C Section

butterflylady

Thank you for all the reassurance, it is very helpful.

Another stupid question what do people wear after a section, obvious answer I no will be clothes but what's most comfortable?

Mojisola

butterflylady wrote: »

I'm looking for some advice, I'm 39 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child, my first 2 came with some intervention but were mainly natural births.

In addition to this I really don't want my oh to have to look after me, I no that sounds silly, it isn't his issue it is mine. I feel that it is my job to look after him. It's taken a lot for me to let him do things while I'm pregnant as I love looking after him!!

butterflylady wrote: »

My partner says all he wants is me and the baby safe.

Sensible man!

I just wanted to 'give' him something different from what he had before. Yes I am aware that sounds very silly!! We're both agreed this is the last baby, my body cldn't cope with another pregnancy, I have also suffered badly with depression during the pregnancy.

Please - for everybody's sake - get used to the idea of accepting help from whoever offers it!

It can be very hurtful to have offers of help refused time and again. Your husband will want to help you because he loves you and wants to look after you and the new baby.

How would you feel if he was poorly and struggling to look after you, the three children and the home and yet he stopped you every time you tried to help him?

butterflylady

No ex sis in law was on a morphine drip.

My oh definitely wants to look after me, whatever it takes he's willing to do it.

rpc

After a quick google I see that codeine is now not recommended (but still available) for breastfeeding mums

http://www.breastfeedingnetwork.org.uk/dibm/codeine_for_website_july_2013%20%281%29%20%284%29.pdf

butterflylady

I'd tell him off badly if he wldn't let me look after him if he was poorly!!

Bless him he's worked so hard to deal with my issues and not let them cause problems btw us!!

PuzzledDave

butterflylady wrote: »

In addition to this I really don't want my oh to have to look after me, I no that sounds silly, it isn't his issue it is mine. I feel that it is my job to look after him. It's taken a lot for me to let him do things while I'm pregnant as I love looking after him!!

After you go through giving birth, which is most probably in the top 10 most exhausting experience of your life perhaps you could take a day or two off ?

Looking at it from the other way.... 'My wife is about to give birth, possibly have a c section, but she won't let me help her at all. I don't know why she wishes to go it alone, I feel hurt and rejected. Could she be planning to leave me and pushing me away already ?'

I also wanted to give him the experience of a natural delivery, my children r from a previous relationship and his son was born by section.

I don't know him of course, but most men would consider a birth that results in a living child and mother a big win. Everything else rates at the same level as the colour of the scales they use to weigh the baby on... meaningless.

rpc

Mojisola wrote: »

It can be very hurtful to have offers of help refused time and again. Your husband will want to help you because he loves you and wants to look after you and the new baby.

Just quoting this bit because it's the truth (speaking as one of said husbands). Don't make your husband feel like an incompetent idiot - even if he doesn't quite do things your way!

Toto

We routinely give oramorph post section but not to go home with.


Butterflylady, you have had 2 big babies already so you know your body can manage a larger baby. If your previous babies had been instrumentals with 6lb babies then I may have said there was a chance of section with a 10lb'er. But you've already done it so I see no indication for section at the moment.

butterflylady

I don't care which Way he does things, I just don't want him to think I'm taking the mick out of him when he works so hard to provide for us.

Sezzagirl

Hi

Just another one to say I had a C-section and didn't have any painkillers other than I think paracetamol.

Also, induction doesn't automatically mean you will have a section

Do you have a midwife that you trust and get on well with that you can talk this through with? It sounds like you've been given the brush off and need some reassurance