Need advice please re. my belongings

linclass

Hello,
I don't know where to go to ask the following, I hope someone can at least point me in the right direction.

I left the marital home 6 weeks ago after 41 years of marriage, taking with me all that my car could carry safely.

I NEED to get back and retrieve my belonging, remaining clothes, shoes, hobby equipment, photos, few ornaments, CDs etc etc. Thing is, my husband (left living in the house, no mortgage, well furnished, MUCH better off than me financially although I have a lot more savings) is starting to be difficult. He doesn't want me to phone, he doesn't want to access emails I send, he won't text and he isn't that psychic!! I DID send an email last week listing all I want, he said he'd gather it together at his convenience, and arrange a car park where he could hand it over... So - how would I go about collecting my stuff please? I doubt the Police would get involved as it's a domestic matter and to be truthful, living in a small village, EVERYONE would know what's going on within minutes...

He doesn't want me just turning up at the house, not even to see my old dog... It's making me ill.

LL

Cotta

Very sad after 41 years of marriage. I would call him once more and ask that you arrange a time that suits you both if this fails I would just contact your solicitor and ask them to write a letter to your ex.

tea_lover

Is he there all the time? Can you go round when he's at work and collect your things?

Bazey

I saw this in the movies I think or possibly a rerun of "The Professionals" with Martin Shaw.

Get a friend to dress as a postman or delivery man, they turn up at the marital home pretending to deliver a package. If Hubby answers the door get postman/deliveryman to create a distraction. Maybe they could have a conversation about the weather, ex wives...that sort of thing. Meanwhile you sneak round the back and let yourself in, gather up your belongings then run like bl**dy f*ck.

It works every time. Maybe get some mini explosives and let them off and try rolling over the front of a car bonnet for dramatic effect when making the get away.

HTH.

Caroline_a

I hope you have an arrangement with your ex to claim your share of the house equity?

Also if your name is on the deeds/mortgage he has no right to keep you out.

linclass

Thanks cotta and tea lover; Think I should get a solicitor really, even if only to write a letter. No, he's retired, is certainly out of the house all day for 2 days each week if not more, and took my house keys before I left. He has a couple of fairly minor Ops in the near future and is saying he's not fit enough for moving the large items I want. Thing is, I'm getting desperate now for some of the items - I can't afford to go and buy a new wardrobe of clothes, otherwise I would do..

Thanks for your contribution Bazey, I'm sorry that you appear to think it's a joke, this situation, and as for comparing it to a TV show/movie, well.....

LL

linclass

Caroline_a wrote: »

I hope you have an arrangement with your ex to claim your share of the house equity?

Also if your name is on the deeds/mortgage he has no right to keep you out.

Yes, Caroline - owned 50/50, name on deeds and agreed (but not legally) he can live there until either death or he decides to sell and move out, offering me first choice to buy his half of whatever the going rate at that time will be. I too thought he had no right to keep me out...

LL

NAR

You have an absolute right of entry to YOUR house, he needs to realise that. Is there a spare set of keys kept with anyone, in case of emergencies, that you could use?

fluffnutter

It's your house and you have every right to enter it. If your husband is being difficult and you can prove ownership (something with your name and address on it?) then just wait until he's out and get a locksmith to change the locks. It's his house too so leave him a new key but keep one for yourself.

Obviously it could start a 'changing the locks continually' war but at least you'll have retrieved your belongings.

BTW, he's breaking the law by denying you access to your house.

Caroline_a

He can live there until death? so you will be losing the equity if you die before him? If you don't need the money to buy something new I guess that's ok, but personally I would be wanting my money in order to make a clean break. If one or both of you needed care in the future then that would get very complicated, as the house would probably have to be sold...

RAS

linclass wrote: »

Yes, Caroline - owned 50/50, name on deeds and agreed (but not legally) he can live there until either death or he decides to sell and move out, offering me first choice to buy his half of whatever the going rate at that time will be. I too thought he had no right to keep me out...

LL

England or Wales? Scotland?

Is this a joint tenancy or tenants in common?

You have the legal right to enter any property you own wholly or partially and he cannot keep you out.

You need proper legal advice urgently.