Fallen out with dad

ScorpiondeRooftrouser

Pixie5740 wrote: »

I think selling the properties or buying your father out of his share (if you can) are probably your best options. That way you could get rid of him once and for all. I can't believe he has been so horrible to you and your wife It's maybe time to speak with a solicitor.

I know this is 2 years old but as far as I can see their "horribleness" consists of asking him to move out of their house and then changing the locks when he wouldn't because "it's a big house".

Jhoney_2

ScorpiondeRooftrouser wrote: »

I know this is 2 years old but as far as I can see their "horribleness" consists of asking him to move out of their house and then changing the locks when he wouldn't because "it's a big house".

See points 2 and 5 of #8.

Seems to be a bit more to it imo.

AdrianC

Jhoney wrote: »

See points 2 and 5 of #8.

Seems to be a bit more to it imo.

I'd love to know the other side of those statements.

Jhoney_2

AdrianC wrote: »

I'd love to know the other side of those statements.

Of course, but certainly the OP has given his side and this forms part of his 'horribleness' claim and thus cannot necessarily be so easily dismissed.

In no way am I suggesting that the full reality is all as the OP has suggested.:)

chappers

pinkshoes wrote: »

Why did you use a solicitor to ask your father to keep the property and not sell it?

The best thing you can do is put all your time and energy into selling the two BTL properties then move in with your life.

^^^This

There is absolutely no point independently borrowing money, even if you can, to settle the mortgage. Your problems of ownership will still exist on this and your other joint properties. Do as you have been advised and engage a solicitor properly to get this sorted out.
Personally I would investigate the possibilities of forcing a sale on the properties so you can cut your ties and move on.
Don't try working through all the legalities and ins and outs of the ownership yourself, that will all come out in the wash as the process progresses.

libf

Coming back after two years to continue trolling... That's commitment! Reasonably entertaining thread, too.

Pixie5740

ScorpiondeRooftrouser wrote: »

I know this is 2 years old but as far as I can see their "horribleness" consists of asking him to move out of their house and then changing the locks when he wouldn't because "it's a big house".

The horribleness to which I referred was the parents trying to drive a wedge between the OP and his wife. Your parents do not get to dictate whom you marry. I did wonder if it was a clash of cultures or something along those lines that lead to it.

There is nothing wrong with parents wanting their children to fly the nest. In fact I think it is something that should be encouraged. If the OP had been asked to move out and the procrastinated about finding another home as much as he has about sorting out these jointly owned properties then I can understand why the locks were changed.

ScorpiondeRooftrouser

Pixie5740 wrote: »

The horribleness to which I referred was the parents trying to drive a wedge between the OP and his wife. Your parents do not get to dictate whom you marry. I did wonder if it was a clash of cultures or something along those lines that lead to it.

They don't, but they have the perfect right to refuse to have much to do with you if you marry someone they find appalling. As they clearly allowed him and his wife to move into their house at one point, one assumes they made some sort of effort before his awful wife became too much for them to bear.

peter12345678910

TBeckett100 wrote: »

This is what you do.

You meet with him neutrally. You explain that you are planning to divorce your wife but you need an exit strategy I.e you need to liquidate other mortgages so you can set yourself up. You get your wife on board, you do the deed with your dad and then tell the old man to drop dead.

On another point, what happens to your fathers share of the property on his death? Does it pass to you or does his share pass to his estate? If he is old, chances are within three years it could come to you anyway.

I have seen 2 solicitors, going through all the options. One was older and had more experience but the atmosphere and dullness of the whole encounter said do not trust him though he asked 100. I went to a younger solicitor then who I felt I could trust better who asked for 150 and we went through all the options. Just texted him yesterday as I had not heard from him in 6 months.

The flat that I have goes to the dad's side when he dies unless he has changed his will. But the other house I rent goes to the wife when he dies.

But if I can get a buy to let mortgage that is less than 450 the rent than it is a fix. Natwest said they can do it without my dad's permission. But the best deals for buy to let are by the mortgage works.

After 2 years and some counselling, and a new baby I am less focused on the emotional side of right and wrong.

BrassicWoman

"the wife" - more than one wife exists so not a helpful statement

wills can be changed easily.

why do natwest say they don't need his signature, you still haven't given information about whose name the deeds are in for each property

and a solicitor will sneeze or write a letter for £150 and do nothing else.

You need to give proper detailed information to get proper help, and if it isn't forthcoming I'm out. This drip feeding is irritating.