Selling home, post divorce. Any tips/advice?

GibsonSt19

mr.broderick wrote: »

Good luck Gibson our thoughts are with you.

Thought about getting her bumped off? Its getting cheaper..

Hahaa, an option indeed, but a very bad option! It's over a year since she left, and she's been needlessly nasty, but I still love her.

How daft am I?!

GibsonSt19

Jennifer_Jane wrote: »

Hi there, Gibson, just a point about the mortgage (fairly obviously I have no legal experience!). It would seem unfair to me, however, that the repayment part of your mortgage should have been paid by you alone over the last year wehther you were in the house or not. If the house is sold, she definitely would benefit from the increased equity paid for by you. I would work it out and tell your solicitor to include it in the negotiation. Also, if you have a bad feeling about your solicitor not doing the best for you, why not get another solicitor?

Anyway, sorry to hear about all this, and hope it all gets cleared up satisfactorily for you and then you can begin the new life. Very best of luck.

Jen

Thanks Jen, yes I too think it's most unfair, but my solicitor (2nd solicitor might I add) has confirmed, and confirmed again that my upkeep of the house will not be taken into consideration when dividing the equity

Sucks huh?! :mad:

Ah well, I'm sure there are other ladies out there who're looking for love, commitment, faithfulness and fun from a slightly chunky bloke!

Helloooo? Ladieeeeeeeees?!

mr.broderick

Can't live with em can't live without em...

bugly_2

Gibson, dont let it get you down.been there done that- just take the cash and find life trust me its out there and so are the good partners, but dont give an inch to her re the split. And watch the legal guys they can drag this out for ages if they get the chance. keep it simple and quick.
ps once you find the right lady it all seems to make sense.

Mushy61

Same thing happened to me some 15 years ago. She b_uggered off when I had just lost my job and was at my lowest ebb.
However I stayed put in the house and although times were hard I found another job and managed the repayments on the mortgage (just). I recently found out she got knocked up by some dude and is living in a squat while the home she left has quadrupled in value in that time and I'm a couple of years away from being mortgage free.

Chin up fella, things get easier in time and I hope things work out well for you.

pennypinching_2

Similar thing happened a few years ago to me but he went off with a work colleague. My solicitors advise was to stay in the marital home and make him pay (we had two children). I didnt want none of that I wanted out asap as it cuts down on all the legal fees I didnt even ask for any of his pension. The only people who benefit from these drawn out divorces/house sales are solicitors.

I believe you have got to break all ties and start again, she really isnt worth having, and what goes around comes around. I have a really good relationship with my ex and i never once wanted revenue, I just picked myself up, dusted myself down and moved on. And because I had that approach it was him that lusted after me!

Ps dont do what I did and hit the shops which is what I did while I was single... Im really paying for it now.