thinking of running away!

hannahsmummy1

well after a brilliant weekend. Im just back down to earth with a great big thud! Dad just phoned to tell me that mum was not happy about giving me the 3300- she wants to give me 2000. Dad isnt happy about this, and feels guilty about the fact that im in debt in the first place because mum was supposed to give me money but bailed my brother out last year. Dad is still angry with her about that. Mum has said she wants to go on holiday and not bother paying off their loan which is why dad got out this new loan with abbey (to pay their 1 loan and a few cc's and help me out)

Mum had even told me the amount they would give me, nothings changed there, but Its a different story now that she has the money (mums like this everytime this happens) Dad has been and paid all his cards (he didnt have much on them) and this morning has been down to pay the loan off (against mums wishes- but dad only wants the one payment each month) Mum just doesnt understand about the money aspect of things at all- whereas dad does.

Ive just spent the last half hour crying. I mean, i wasnt counting on the money, sure it will help enormously, but im madder at my mum for still not realising her problem. Guess shes not had her LBM yet!

sammy115

this is a really tricky situation and I can't help feeling that you have enough of your own problems without worrying about your mum and dad.. I may sound harsh but I think its true.

What would be best for you hannahsmummy! Just think about that one for a while.. Your mum and dad are grown ups and can sort out their own lives. I would accept what they are happy to give you and say thanks and get on with your life.

I hope I don't sound too harsh, I really don't mean to, and your parents do sound like wonderful people but its time to make your own way in life, (not depending on OH or parents).xxxxxx

PS Please don't run away...

joeblack066

***HUGS*** I'm sure this has upset you and probably confused you too, and feeling like you want to run away is undestandable when stressed, but I'm sure you know that this is not the answer, and things do have a habit of turning out better than they seemed at their darkest moments. You come accross as a strong person. You will feel better soon. x

AJolly

That sounds exactly like my mum, but i think mine is slightly worse. She actualy moans at me for spending all the extra money i get each month on my debts. Says why dont i just pay the minimum each month so i have more money to go out with (I know where my priorites lie, and its not booze)

I hope she has her LBM soon Hannah, sounds like you and your dad know what you are doing though im sure she will see the light soon. Hoping mine does too.

Broken_hearted

Hugs parents can be worse than children sometimes. As for running away it doesn'y matter how fast you run you still keep up, the problems don't go away they just change.

hannahsmummy1

i just always feel so stuck in the middle of everything. I am stressed-majorly stressed and im actually really worried i may end up suffering a break down! I am taking Kalms, and bach rescue remedy but neither of these is having an effect. I cant eat and i cant sleep. I dont feel particularly strong at the moment. I feel tired and weak and that ive had enough. Ive tried telling everyone this. OH never wants to know, and all he is bothered is that this gets paid and in the shortest amount of time possible.

smudgemanc26

Hi HM

Please dont do anything rash. Just take a minute sit down with a nice cup of tea and try to take a deep breath.

I know its easy for others to say and give advice when they are not in your situation but please think about it running away will only add to the problem not help to solve it.

Just wondering how the strike went with the OH? Did it help him realise anything?

Hope everything works out ok remember you have this board too for help and advice so dont sit and struggle on your own thinking you are alone. x

pania

hi hannahsmummy. Bless you hon i know how you feel, i still don't speak to my father due to his reaction over my debt and it's so hard to accept that your parents may not understand or think the same as you. I think you need to look after yourself and let your dad be concerned about your mum. Look how far you've come since you started this process. You've had your LBM and should feel proud for that. sadly you can't switch on other peoples lights for them no matter how much you may want to or how much you care.
Keep smiling hon and stay positive. I know it's hard but you're doing so well.
Big hugs
P
xx

hannahsmummy1

the strike made him realise how much i do for him!!! But apart from that not much else- we argued again last night. I told him i was tired and at breaking point, but all he wanted to do was sit and watch the tv. I couldn run away anyway- not really. I wouldnt have the heart to do it. Im going to have a shower and hopefully feel a bit better after that.

At the minute i just want to say to everybody - i will pay the debts off then everyone can stop squabbling over money. Its so true that money is the route of all evil!

Storm

hannahsmummy1 wrote: »

i just always feel so stuck in the middle of everything. I am stressed-majorly stressed and im actually really worried i may end up suffering a break down! I am taking Kalms, and bach rescue remedy but neither of these is having an effect. I cant eat and i cant sleep. I dont feel particularly strong at the moment. I feel tired and weak and that ive had enough. Ive tried telling everyone this. OH never wants to know, and all he is bothered is that this gets paid and in the shortest amount of time possible.

Hi HannahsMummy :hello:

From your post above it sounds to me like you're not only very stressed, but possibly depressed as well.

PLEASE - go to see your GP and tell him/her how you're feeling, if nothing else just talking to someone can help, and you may benefit from getting a prescription.

On a practical note - if you're not sleeping there are various herbal remedies available - a few years ago I used a homeopathic one from Boots for insomnia, and it worked brilliantly (they have different ones depending on the reason why you're not sleeping, mine was for when you get into bed and your mind can't switch off!) - make sure anything you take isn't going to clash with any other medication you're on though.

I hope the situation improves for you soon

Storm x

WhiteLily_2

Hi Hannahs Mummy

Sounds like you are having a tough time at the moment!

If you feel the need to take Kalms and Bachs rescue Remedy you should consider having a chat with your GP. It may be that you need some medicinal support. I was feeling like you a few months ago - i.e like I was cracking up! Went to see my GP - who was fantastic. My problems were hormonal but same symptons. She prescribed me a mild anti depressant and I cannot tell you how much better I feel. I can now think positively and rationally, sleep uninterrrupted (apart from Husbands snoring!!!) for 7-8 hours, I'm more motiovated and energetic and can see the light at the end of the tunnel! Don't feel a failure if you need some medicinal support - it takes a stronger person to ask for help than the person that tries to battle on! Take care.