Fed up :-/ You thought you had it bad..

persa

TrickyWicky wrote: »

Thanks very much! So let me get this right, others around here can let off steam but not tricky? You know some people like to hear of others going through the mill as it makes them feel a bit better knowing they're not alone.

You might remember I used the words "to show some of you that it could be worse!" I didn't say everyone, I know many folks here are in the dirt.

Somehow though you think that just being unemployed with no income is just as bad.. Tell you what mate, go have a go at staring death in the face, get your belly cut open and struggle to do anything for months and then perhaps you'll appreciate what it's actually like Many folks here will be able to apply for many types of work- I can apply for very little due to the limits imposed on me.

You beat me to it.

AP007 has to my knowledge never mentioned any health problems. There's a big difference between unemployed but able to work and unemployed but not.

It's a real shame about the taxi driving, it sounds like you found your niche for a while there. I sincerely hope you find something else that you get on with - and let's be clear, emergency surgery due to someone's negligence is a horrendous experience which more than entitles you to let off some steam, let alone the job woes.

Money is fleeting, health is far more important. I wish you well on your road to recovery - and in your job hunt.

TrickyWicky

Thanks persa, it's really gruelling at the moment and the days are becoming harder and harder to cope with but I'm hanging in... just!

jacques_chirac

You've had your vent, and hopefully it has helped you to get it off your chest. Now what about the positives?

1. You have a partner that loves you.
2. You have a roof over your head.
3. You have an income, even if it is not earned by yourself - you're not going to starve.
4. Whilst they may not be perfect, you have access to a pretty amazing healthcare system, all free of charge.

I'm sure you can think of lots more if you put your mind to it.

You've had a crappy time, no one is suggesting otherwise. But now is your opportunity to start afresh and turn things around

dandelionclock30

Where theres life there hope, at least your not dying.
What about doing some courses at college to help with your employment prospects or some volunteering or do up the house for your partner,if your able to.

TrickyWicky

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Where theres life there hope, at least your not dying.

That you know of! I remember a surgeon also telling me that.. the next day I was under the knife having my guts pulled apart I am still waiting for more tests as I have a lot of bad symptoms.

Local college went bust (not that I have the funds lol). Anything physical is a no at the moment :mad:

Kayalana99

TrickyWicky wrote: »

So to recap: Little qualifications, no office experience for 10 years, not able to do anything physical, can't drive, shot references, no benefits (I live with someone in full time work / education), ongoing health problems to put off employers, at least two more operations needed, possible other illnesses and I have a record for mental health problems! Oh and on top of that my partner is starting to crack under the strain and they're the one keeping us both afloat :eek:

Not much to add really, have you thought about claiming for compensation? Usally I am 100% against people going after the NHS for money but you've had it so hard I think you'd deserve the break..

Next, I don't know if it will make a differnce but just because your life is hard don't expect your partner to appreicate what shes got even more. I've been in this boat where my Ex had big problems and because I didn't have these problems he took it out on me and used to turn it against me that my life was so perfect...yet my life wasnt perfect because I was being treated like crap by him, whilst having to support all his own issues. I know it sounds selfish but just because your going through a hard time does not mean your partner shouldn't be allowed to have a complaint so to speak...not saying you are the same as my ex was a complete **** head but instead of thinking 'They have their health & job they should be grateful'...it doesn't mean they are happy and you should appreicate the fact they are their for them and at least be a shoulder to cry on as they have been for you.

anarchied

Don't have anything to add, apart from *hug*

Dimey

Crikey Tricky, you have my sympathies.

I am an unlucky person. If anything can go wrong - it will go wrong with me. But by comparison to you I'm blessed.

You might as well hang in there with the negligence claim. You need to get the person who's dealing with it on your side by phoning them once a week for an update to nicely chivvy them along by being charming so they want to do well for you.

My Mother was tortured for 6 months and eventually died in the hands of the NHS. I tried to fight for decency all the way through and failed because the staff were prepared to lie and cover up.

I was not seeking financial compensation, just an apology and a request for them to use Mum's case to teach young doctors & nurses what happens when you become neglectful and couldn't-care-less and to highlight system faults to management. The complaint dragged on for 2 years after she died until one day I realised Mum would have preferred me to get on with my life so I stopped.

I only mention this so you can see that its normal for the NHS to drag their heels and make things awkward for you. Don't think its targeted to you alone. You can read many terrible stories where other's have been treated badly and had to wait years for a fair hearing. So press on but don't let it dominate your mind.

You do sound quite chirpy. I love your sarcastic sense of humour. But I realise that underneath you must feel sad and bitterly hard done by.

I expect your OH needs you to be cheerful and patient for her to manage to keep you both going with so much now on her shoulders. Hopefully you can do bits of housework or cooking or other tasks to help out as best you can. I'm sure she appreciates that. I hope you often tell her how much you love and appreciate her.

So it's you two against the world. I wish you a change of luck and relief of pain. And in time a return to the taxi job you love so much..... Oh I wonder whether you could get a job on the taxi phones - like Eileen does in Coronation Street?!

TrickyWicky

Sorry to hear of your loss Dimey, the nhs are well known for neglecting people and there is a lot of snobbery within it for some reason.

Negligence claim isn't looking overly hopeful to be honest so at the moment I'm just letting the solicitor do whatever it is they do - they'll contact me eventually.

@kayalana good advice. Things have been a bit heated here lately so thanks for the reality check.

poet123

Dimey wrote: »

I tried to fight for decency all the way through and failed because the staff were prepared to lie and cover up.

!

The same thing happened to my family....twice.