Who provides the children's clothes at the non residential parents home?

iammumtoone

A question has come up on another thread on who provides clothes for the children whilst they say overnight at the non residential parents home. In your case is the parent with care or the non residential parent?

When my sons goes to his fathers, I have to take his clothes, just wondered if the majority do the same, or if you are a father who sees their children at the weekends do you have clothes etc at your home or do the child(ren) come with them?

I do appreciate that no one should make these decisions based on an internet poll/forum as everyones situation is different but it will be interesting to see what most people do.

hgotsparkle

When I used to stay at my dads house on weekends, I would take a bag of my clothes from home with me but they would usually be a mix of clothes my mum had bought (both with her money and using the CSA payments) and clothes my dads side had bought me for xmas and birthdays. Clothes are clothes at the end of the day.

peachyprice

Does it really matter who bought them and who washes and irons them as long as the child has clean clothes to wear?

I'm not voting because it's a very blinkered poll.

xxlouisexx56

Dd's does not buy her clothes. So I expect all clothes I provide to come back on a Sunday night and then I have to wash them all. This is fine with me.

They are going to a big family party this weekend and I won't be providing adequate clothing as she's had a massive growth spurt and I bought all her uniform and new coat. She has no need for a party dress here at the moment so he can it for her.

victory

peachyprice wrote: »

Does it really matter who bought them and who washes and irons them as long as the child has clean clothes to wear?

I'm not voting because it's a very blinkered poll.

I agree. Children's clothes could come from all ways, birthday presents, xmas presents, gifts, handed down, charity shops, from a car boot sale that nanna went to and thought the grandson would like,friends swapping, it would never be a 50/50 parent split, they would come from all ways.

I did not vote either.

FatVonD

I send my DS with clothes. I would never expect him to have a second wardrobe at his dad's but it would be really nice if stuff got sent back (washed or otherwise) and didn't just disappear until he'd grown out of it. We currently have one pair of trousers and 2 pairs of jeans unaccounted for :mad:

sjlou

my ex sil has been sending her son over to my bro on a Friday in his school uniform and with nothing else (since he started reception class).
So he ends up washing that and making sure its ironed for monday. Plus then any clothes he's bought for him he has to wear home, and never seem to re appear! Cant keep that up for long or they'll be nothing left!

When he used to pick him up from nursery there would be a small case/bag with him which at least had a couple of changes in.

iammumtoone

FatVonD wrote: »

I send my DS with clothes. I would never expect him to have a second wardrobe at his dad's but it would be really nice if stuff got sent back (washed or otherwise) and didn't just disappear until he'd grown out of it. We currently have one pair of trousers and 2 pairs of jeans unaccounted for :mad:

Perhaps I might be one of the lucky ones then, mine do always come home when I collect him (not washed but I would rather that as they would be more likely to go missing if they had to stay there for the week, plus I have them so he can be wearing them before the next visit.)

Spendless

I'm neither the child of divorced parents or am divorced myself but the question when it appeared on the other thread reminded me very much of something that happened when a friend divorced. Her daughter had been bought a collection of Peter Rabbit books that were quite expensive by Dad's side of the family. When divorcing the question of the books came up, did they live at Dad's new house or at Mum's (mum was resident parent). The solicitor said he couldn't even believe it was being argued about. The books belonged to the child, so therefore they lived wherever the child's main home was. I think the same about clothes, they belong to said child, therefore they live at his home with him and travel if he stays anywhere.

iammumtoone

Spendless wrote: »

I'm neither the child of divorced parents or am divorced myself but the question when it appeared on the other thread reminded me very much of something that happened when a friend divorced. Her daughter had been bought a collection of Peter Rabbit books that were quite expensive by Dad's side of the family. When divorcing the question of the books came up, did they live at Dad's new house or at Mum's (mum was resident parent). The solicitor said he couldn't even believe it was being argued about. The books belonged to the child, so therefore they lived wherever the child's main home was. I think the same about clothes, they belong to said child, therefore they live at his home with him and travel if he stays anywhere.

When my ex moved out he took all the furniture he had purchased with him (fair enough) but as this included the furniture in my sons room (ex paid for it). He took that as well

victory

iammumtoone wrote: »

When my ex moved out he took all the furniture he had purchased with him (fair enough) but as this included the furniture in my sons room (ex paid for it). He took that as well

You just reminded me, years ago my neighbour whilst her husband was at work, hired a day van and got some people to help her take out all the furniture, clothes, kitchen items etc out of the house...
the husband returned from work to...absolutely nothing, not even a knife or fork or a small TV , nothing, I remember him running out the house screaming and when some neighbours said it had been his wife, he cried, she left him and took the lot, definetly not fair:eek: