Ive come so far, feeling proud :)

mother-to-4

Finally escaped my very violent ex 6 yrs back. I had nothing he destoyed it all. I moved counties to be with my family and studied. I cleared off the thousands of debt he left me with and all my defaults are finally due to drop off early next year. Met a new man and married, things were good for a while but turned sour this year and we have decided to separate, he put me down alot and said I was a fat and ugly (im size12-14 and others say im attractive he on the other hand is 23 stone and not much to look at), unemployable etc and his needs always took priority.
In past week since we split I have got my motivation back and booked in to take my driving lessons again (gave my prebooked ones to him few years ago due to maternity and sickness), managed to get down to telephone interview stage for a merchandiser job at Debenhams (passed telephone interview today, gotta do a group recruitment thing next saturday), booked a holiday for me and kids next year, arranged an orthodontic consultation which ive been putting off for years (I was a thumb sucker in my youth, needsome straighteneing bu nowt major) and in between that been asked on 2 separate dates haha..... I will be steering clear of men for a long time but feeling rather proud of myself today, he couldnt have been right about what he said or why would I have got an interview and asked out. Im determined to make a good life for me and the kids

City_Girl_2

Good for you, no wonder you are feeling proud:)

E. x

ciderwithrosie_2

You should feel proud of yourself Mother-to-4 or should that be 'Strong, independent woman also mother to 4' Have a Braveheart moment... punch the air and yell FREEEEEEEEEEDOMMMMM!!
Best of luck with the job!

mother-to-4

Still hurting though, I did love him he wasnt all bad, but today is a good day

marisco_2

Such an inspirational thread. You have every reason to feel very proud of yourself OP. I don't underestimate the struggles you have faced, or the amount of strength and resilience it has taken to pull through some very difficult times.

Your ex chose to undermine you and reflect his failings onto you for his own selfish reasons. As you are discovering now your value to others both personally and professionally doesn't decrease, based on one persons inability to appreciate your worth. With your approach to and outlook on life I predict an amazing future ahead for yourself and the children. Well done you :T

puppypants

Mother-to-4, YOU ROCK!! xx

downshifted

Not many are all bad - but some, including yours, are not good enough.

Well done - keep it up, and come back on here for support when you need it

mother-to-4

Thanks feel so liberated yet so hurt at same time, just cant understand why he was so selfish. When I said I cant take this anymore I want to end it within 48 hrs he joined a dating agency and registered himself as divorced and looking for a woman to spoil.... he hasnt bought me anything the whole time we were together and he didnt even wait to make sure it was over or move out before he was lining up his next woman. Dont know why im dwelling i need to stop thinking about it, helps to keep busy

City_Girl_2

mother-to-4 wrote: »

Thanks feel so liberated yet so hurt at same time, just cant understand why he was so selfish. When I said I cant take this anymore I want to end it within 48 hrs he joined a dating agency and registered himself as divorced and looking for a woman to spoil.... he hasnt bought me anything the whole time we were together and he didnt even wait to make sure it was over or move out before he was lining up his next woman. Dont know why im dwelling i need to stop thinking about it, helps to keep busy

Accept a date or two and start your own life from now as the new you:)

Have fun and enjoy:)

E.x

harrys_nan

Well done you, The future is looking good. xx