Last few weeks at work and yet I'm stressing!

sterl1ng

I'm moving internally in couple of weeks and my replacement who is external starts tomorrow and I've prepared a training guide too. She's going to be sat with me rest of week then after that sat on own whilst I'm nearby to help before I shift. I guess I'm more stressed as I know she's a recommendation from someone who has been a right cow to me in past so cannot help that everything I do in training will go back to this lady though my asst supervisor said I have nothing to worry about as she does my appraisal not that other woman (she's not a fan of that lady either!). Supervisor said i should be mored relaxed now but im quite nervous!

Despite who my replacement is connected with need to be professional but given misery cow put me through its tough task!

DomRavioli

Hi OP,

I already feel sorry for the person taking over your role - you have made your mind up without even knowing this person, and negatively at that. I suggest you calm yourself down and go with an open mind - I have friends who are absolute dipsh!!s, but are the complete opposite of me; if I had to put up with you in that mood, I wouldn't be working there long.

Wait until you have actually met this person, and took them at face value - we all have family and friends who are less than ideal but that doesn't mean everyone is like that.

sterl1ng

Well obviously ill try put who she is connected with aside and try make up own mind. Why would you have dipsh!! Friends?

aileth

DomRavioli wrote: »

Hi OP,

I already feel sorry for the person taking over your role - you have made your mind up without even knowing this person, and negatively at that. I suggest you calm yourself down and go with an open mind - I have friends who are absolute dipsh!!s, but are the complete opposite of me; if I had to put up with you in that mood, I wouldn't be working there long.

Wait until you have actually met this person, and took them at face value - we all have family and friends who are less than ideal but that doesn't mean everyone is like that.

Think that's a little uncalled for. I don't think OP is worried that the person who is sitting with her is going to be a cow or as you say a 'dipsh*t', I think she's worried that because that person is friends with someone else in the company who OP has clashed with, there's going to be a lot of poisonous words and b*tching passed about.

I would try not to think about it, OP. Do the job to the best of your ability and be as polite, lovely and courteous as possible to make sure as little poison or malice is passed back. It's only temporary! Like your Asst Super said, she will be doing your appraisal, so will know to take anything said with a handful of salt.

sterl1ng

Thanks Aileth, you hit nail on head there and yes I will be pleasant and professional. I have actually met her briefly as she came couple of months back to see my manager and I had to collect her from reception. I knew in gut she was interviewing for my job and it wasn't till next day my boss told me. So much of back story but don't want to bore but I'm doing best

Thanks again x

lostinrates

You know that saying about revenge being a dish best served cold?

Here is your chance....the cleverest sort of revenge.

Be lovely. Don't say a word of gossip, keep your private life private, smile and be charming. Say NOTHING even if she hints or raises it, about other people or her wasp friend.

This person will wonder whether her friend is really right and valid to be saying anything she says or not. (Plus its just the best way to behave (at work especially) and you'll feel virtuous and if anything ever happens or gets raised you'll be able to say you behaved impeccably.

dancingfairy

It's 2 weeks and then you'll be moving on to better things (and hopefully not have to deal with her again?).
Hold your head high, you have done nothing wrong. Remain the complete, utter professional. Don't let her think she has got to you.
Best of Luck
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sacha28

Try not to stress (easy for me to say, I know!). I have always said to myself that I can't judge people by other people's opinions and will make my own mind up about somebody. My OH is the complete opposite. When he started his new job he was told by a friend of his that one of his new colleagues was a total idiot and not to be trusted. On his second day he was placed to work with said idiot and didn't sleep a wink the night before as he was getting really stressed out about how to deal with him if he was to 'kick off'. Low and behold they got on fantastically and socialise outside of work now. Not everyone gel's, you may like me but your other friends may hate me, that's the nature of being human!!

Keep an open mind about her, she may surprise you and be the total opposite of how you think she's going to be. And if she's not? You're leaving anyway so who gives a !!!! lol!!

sterl1ng

Thanks for the support, means a lot. I can't tell u the hell I've gone brought last through months but light end of tunnel. I will be pleasant and professional and do best not to be negative.

For a huge team only very small handful have actually congratulated me whereas rest haven't said anything. After all hardwork I've done for them too. I may still bring some chocolates to celebrate even if they aren't happy for me

aileth

sterl1ng wrote: »

Thanks for the support, means a lot. I can't tell u the hell I've gone brought last through months but light end of tunnel. I will be pleasant and professional and do best not to be negative.

For a huge team only very small handful have actually congratulated me whereas rest haven't said anything. After all hardwork I've done for them too. I may still bring some chocolates to celebrate even if they aren't happy for me

I would if I were you, take the moral high ground! They are probably just bitter, sweeten them up with some chocs (or just rub it in that you're going onwards and upwards with said chocs!)