Jealousy issues

Amanda4242

My boyfriend works with and has been friends with a young woman (who also happens to be a part time model) for about 2 years. My boyfriend used to fancy her, but the window of opportunity for them to be together passed and they just became friends.
Now I trust my boyfriend explicity 100%, it is the most honest relationship I've had. We went out for a picnic on Saturday, where this girl was also in attendance. The pub then followed the picnic. Everyone was very drunk.
My boyfriend was chatting to a good friend whilst I was dancing with my back to them. The girl then sat down next to my boyfriend and began to run her hand up and down his leg. He got up and came straight over to me, to make it clear to her that it was not on. When she left he told me what happened (as I've made it clear I dont want no secrets between us), which I respect him for being honest.
The problem I have is that even though I trust him, I dont trust her in the slightest and they work together (although not on the same team). So how do I handle the situation? Me and my boyfriend have spoken about it in detail and he has been amazing, but its just gonna be hard to handle as they work together. Thanks for any advice.

Sharifa_2

I think he handled it wonderfully, and hopefully she's got the message from his reaction. I don't think you have anything to worry about, I really don't.

Justie

you don't have to trust her - your boyfriend seems to have the measure of her and be both giving the right signals to her and keeping communication lines open with you. Sounds like you have little to worry about.

Amanda4242

Thankyou to you both, I guess I just needed reassuring as my exhusband ran off with somebody years ago. I know Im onto a good thing here and dont want anything to jeopardise that!

poe.tuesday

you have no control over her actions so worrying about what she may or may not do, afterall, she can try all she likes but you know in you heart of hearts that your boyfriend is not interested and that's all that matters

don't let her drive a wedge between you, jealousy can be so disctructive

ktb

If you become jealous and possessive you will risk alienating a man who actually does wants to be with you. Dont make him think 'well she is always accusing me of doing something why shouldn't I?'. You have to know & believe in your heart that if he truly doesnt want to be with you absolutely nothing you do or say will make him stay... Likewise if he truly does want to be with you then there is nothing that other woman can do to to destroy your relationship... the only person that will do that is you by being insecure & paranoid.

You trust him... that is amazing... totally ignore this other woman and have more confidence in your relationship.

outrageous_monkey

Sounds like you've got a lovely guy there. I dont think you have anything to worry about.

As for her, then personally I think she would be barking if she tried anything again. She did the hand up and down his leg, whilst he was chatting to some one else, plus, I wonder how many more saw this and then saw your BF get up and walk over to you. To be fair, she made a bit of !!!!! of herself and was knocked back..........I wouldnt have thought she'd try again.

Acc72

As a bloke I would agree with all previous comments.

The one thing I would add is to forget about her and get on with your life - do not quiz your boyfreind (eg. "do you see much of x at work" etc.) as this will not help either of you.

She may be physically attractive, but she also sounds manipulative - and a lot of men do not find either manipulative or jealous women very attractive.

belfastgirl23

I'd say cultivate feeling sorry for her - what a loser to behave like this! It's hard to feel jealous of someone who is so desperate. But definitely steer clear of asking/talking about her too much!

Amanda4242

Thankyou to you all, such great wisdom you all have. I think I'm doing good, I'm doing/not doing everything that is suggested anyway. I guess its the old insecurity eating away. But yeah you're all totally right, so thankyou very much. You've all made me feel so much better about it all

nats3006

She sounds a bit$h can i add!!

Hate women like that
When they can have it they dont want it, but when they cant they do! :mad: