Convincing your partner to be a little more, uhm, moderated with their food?

gayleygoo

Sorry to hear about kitty, I hope she'alright...

Does your OH get a good dinner? Filling himself up well with plenty of healthy food is a good way of cutting down the snacks. I eat a lot of chocolate at night, but less if I had a proper dinner. And I wasn't impressed when OH mentioned I should maybe cut down the chocolate... but then I'm not overweight. If your OH has a weight issue , see where else he can cut down. Could he try having one can of coke instead of a litre bottle? It's hard to get out of any habit though, so he has to want to do it, and may stubbornly refuse if you try to insist!

Weight aside, him eating "your" share of things isn't a huge deal, except that perhaps you feel he doesn't think of you when munching away on all the snacks, or pay any mind to your budget or meal planning. Talk to him and decide what's best- whether it's labelling food or just having him ask if it's ok with you to eat the last of something, or in case you want to save it for later.

Its not fun to be in a job with no job satisfaction or prospects, as you are both young now is the time to do what u want to do (it's much harder when you have kids!) I'm just about to start a degree with the open university, my fees are paid as our income is under £20k, maybe that could be an option for him, or his work might pay the fees if he asks.

And if there are any treats you like but he doesn't, buy those instead of digestives!

BugglyB

Sounds to me like he's miserable and its not just about food.

Just as you want to work him to work together with you to get a solution to this problem, you need to work with him to get him back to uni, if thats what he wants. Look at all the options and make a plan together.

You mention wanting children before 30 but not with a man who is depressed and unfulfilled, surely.

Kboss is right that you need to consider whether he's the right man for you in terms of future plans and ambitions, maybe he does have different priorities from you. Don't have a miserable time in your 20s because you are trying to change him and make him the man you want to support you while you are having your babies.

BugglyB

I also hope your cat is ok

Prothet_of_Doom

Okay there are 3 issues to me.

1) Get rid of anything that is 'bad' - just get rid of the crisps....When I want to comfort eat, all I can ever find is fruit.

2) Don't shop so far in advance.....If you run out....make toast...

3) And finally set him some challenges.....Build a shed, decorate the the whole house by October, basically make him too busy to eat...

Any

Sorry, still getting over the fact that they've "had it" at 23 and he has no time to waste to decide on what he really wants to do!!:eek:

And going through 1l bottle of squash a fortnight??:rotfl:

Feel sorry for the bloke. Sorry, but first step might be for you to stop putting presure on the poor bloke. I think you need to deal with YOUR issues first, before you stop him having a SQUASH for crying out loud!!

Perhaps with a little less pressure about life, house and babies and the fact that he is the one with sure full time job he will feel better about himself and stop comfort eating.

flubberyzing

He also seems to have a problem with squash; he'll go through one of the
litre bottles of Tesco double concentrate in about a fortnight

I drink about that... Perhaps not quite that much... But squash is literally all I drink at home. I might have the occasional glass of juice, but the bulk of my liquid intake comes from squash and coffee. A litre a fortnight for a man doesn't seem particularly unreasonable to me. Plus he might just be "a thirsty person". My sister is. She won't go for a half-day out anywhere, without carrying at least a litre of pre-made squash with her! And that's all for her!

maman

BugglyB wrote: »

Sounds to me like he's miserable and its not just about food.

It would be easy to provide answers to your original question OP. You could have a treat box for yourself and keep all your favourites in there. Even a little beer fridge for your yogurts if necessary but that doesn't sound like the real problem.

Whatever path he chooses it has to be him that chooses it. You can support him but not do it for him.

If he is obese, he has to want to lose weight. Of course if he made that decision you could help him by cooking healthy meals, not buying junk etc. but without his commitment he could sabotage all your efforts.

Of course it's possible to work and study at the same time. I've done 2 degrees that way on top of my original one. But he doesn't sound 100% sure what he wants to study or why. Has he considered OU? He could do that and work full time.

He needs to make some decisions about where his life is going. If he'd prefer to stay in a job he hates, moan about it, stuff his face, get fat and spend time with his mates then that's his prerogative. BUT, is that the relationship you want?