Last pay slip and JSA

Cashtyke

Just to satisfy your curiosity the person in question who is sixteen isnt my daughter. I do ask questions for other people too on here who dont have access to the internet as i tell them how many people (though not always) can be helpful on here. If you look even more closely you will probably find some other questions which dont always apply to me.
As for the other post you have tracked down if you check that was over a month ago and as many moneysavers on here would im sure agree things can change very quickly in a month.
At the time i had just been made redundant and my mother in law was unwell and we were considering the options open to us including possibly schooling my daughter in a different area therefore my wife would have moved out with my daughter to her mother in laws leaving me to find work and stay in this area. The question was regarding how much help i would get with rent to see if i could carry on affording to live where i was.
Thankfully my m.i.l is ok to be just cared for part time by my wife for now as my brother in law is now also around to help. I made the decision to teach my daughter simply because she is more important than anything to me and she needs the best start i can give her in life (that doesnt always mean financially).
It seems to me that you are trying to make insinuations about my life. All i wanted was a bit of advice but all i seem to have received from you is suspicion. The position i find myself in is far from ideal as to have so many problems in the short space of time is very difficult. Maybe you have never had the current problems i have so you find it difficult to relate to them. If so i suggest you direct your opinions somewhere else!

Bogof_Babe

You are a bit touchy, and I honestly meant you no ill will (as you can see from post no. 9 on this thread).
I am surprised that none of the regulars on this board have popped in to offer suggestions as to how you can get extra money to support your family. That to me indicates that either I have covered all the angles already, or there is nothing you are entitled to, so they have no suggestions to offer you.
I did search on all your 56 posts to date, l do admit. Mainly because you joined the site in Jan 2006 and don't appear to have made any contributions to anyone else's threads in the meantime, so you only come here when you want help yourself.
I am being careful not to contravene Martin's site rules, i.e. be helpful not critical, but your problems seem to have been so diverse, and often you don't follow up your threads to say how things turned out.
Basically this country owes no-one a living. We all have to pay our way somehow or other. If your wife was only working two days a week, and you were home tutoring your daughter, how did you really expect to manage? It seems like your lifestyle is built on the shaky foundation of believing someone else will pay for you.
If your wife's mum is in need of 35 hours care a week from your wife, then presumably she is on DLA or AA (depending on whether she is under or over age 60). If she is receiving either of these, and your wife is caring for her for 35 hours a week, your wife should apply for Carer's Allowance of approx £49 a week. It's not a fortune but it all helps.
If your m-i-l is not on DLA or AA, then the authorities will view it as your wife looking after her out of compassion, and I'm afraid they won't consider this good enough reason to subsidise your family life.
I still think you should get your daughter re-assessed for her educational needs. There are specialist schools that help those who genuinely need it.
Look at it from the outsider's point of view - everyone would like to stay at home and be supported by the state, but where would that leave the economy as a whole?
It seems from your other posts that you are no stranger to the benefits system, so I am not sure why you have posted this particular question on here. I think you (the family) burnt your bridges when your wife ceased to pay NI contributions.
I remain to be proved wrong, and I sincerely hope you don't come to grief, but sometimes people just have to look out for themselves, and not at the taxpayer's expense.

healy

I can see bogof babes point of view with regard to other posts not seeming to fit in with each other and it has not been at all clear that some were on behalf of other people.

Cashtyke

yet so little about my life. You appear to collect what information you can find from me and attempt to pigeonhole me. This i find offensive!
I have paid my way in life. Ive not been in this situation before. Its only due to a culmination of events in a short space of time that we are reeling. I agree my problems have been quite varied. This is just due to what has happened.
My wife reduced her hours to 2 days a week to care part time for her father (who has passed away) and then for her mother who is 75. This was while i worked full time. So as for burning bridges by my wife not paying NI's, How can you make such assumptions over peoples lives? Do i know the benefits system? Well we have both worked as most of our lives. Yes we claimed tax credits but doesnt a large portion of the country do that? Or do you believe that they are handouts we shouldnt recieve too? As for the rest of the benefits system i dont really know that much hence why i come on here and ask the questions. I also thank anyone who is helpful and am very grateful for the advice. As for me not contributing, well i unlike some people dont dish out advice if i dont know what i am talking about.
As for my daughters educational needs this has been discussed for the last few weeks with the authorities and they are very pleased with how i have gone about sorting my childs education so i dont require any help in that way.
If i can fit an evening part time job in to boost the income i will but most importantly my daughter will be educated by me for this next year.
You also appear to be very touchy yourself about people claiming money off the state. Is this because as you stated in a previous post you havent had to and you feel aggrieved?
As for you saying "everyone would like to stay at home and be supported by the state," Well i dont like the idea of not being able to work but i wont be bullied by people like you to live exactly how you think we should live. It is obvious from your posts you live in a different world to me and also obvious that you really dont like any alternative ways of living to yours. This doesnt mean your ways are right though!

Cashtyke

I can see how someone could mistakenly think that although i try and point out if it is me. If it isnt i try to generally ask it like hypothetical question. ie what if this happened? or i mention it is a friend. I apologise if this confused anyone. My life has been very complicated recently and i can understand anyone trawling through my posts might be confused (i myself have had trouble keeping up wit hit all.
However making insinuations ie the burning our bridges comment though is not at all helpful and can be seen as offensive.

tigtag02

First of all can I hold my hand up and say that I DONT want to stay at home and be supported by the state - thats just for the generalisation record!!!

Secondly for as much I agree with a lot of what bog-off is saying the posts in essence do come across as very judgemental which we all know is not what this site is about.

Cash has a question, we need to address that without the what he should and shouldn't be doing with his life comments. Unfortunately cash I have been lucky enough to have never been in this situation so all I can recommend is that you contact CAB or DWP in the morning and find out difinitively where you stand as far as benefits are concerned.

HTH
tigtag

Cashtyke

I feel that reading through my posts it might be confusing for others to understand but unfortunately that is what it has been like. Hopefully i'll have a quieter year next year . I do however find the comments made had been very judgemental too.

Bogof_Babe

Right then, you win. You have not answered any of my questions about whether your mother-in-law is on DLA or AA, which might get your wife access to CA.
Yes I am a bit touchy about people who see living on benefits as a career choice. I'm not saying this is your own case, but as you seem to have explored all avenues and not been told you are entitled to anything, then I'm afraid I'm presumably in line with the powers that be who decide such matters.
If you haven't enough coming in to live on, why not just go to your local benefits office and ask them?
I looked after my parents for four years until dad died last October and mum moved into a care home. I didn't claim anything from the state because I was only up there for about 15 hours a week, not the necessary 35. At this time my husband was still working and paying tax, and it was a heck of a juggling act to share our one car so that he could go every day to see to his own dad, who was also terminally ill.
Your m-i-l is probably entitled to social services care if she is considered unwell enough. Depending on her financial circs she might get it free, or if she has sufficient capital then she will have to make a contribution or pay for it all. Either way it is not down to your wife to look after her. I can appreciate that she wants to be there for her, but if it is at the expense of her own family then it might be a tough choice she has to make.

Cashtyke

a truce i think. I just felt some comments were a little personal. But that is your view and you are entitled to it. I do sympathise with what you went through regarding your parents as we have gone through something of a similar nature and done our best to support ourselves. Its just we seem to have been dealt one blow after another recently and hopefully things should get better soon. It does become very difficult as sometimes we are splitting ourselves in half as we try to look after our family.
i certainly dont regard living off benefits as a career choice and i dont think i ever will but i am not going to be ashamed to ask for help temporarily while we get back on our feet. Maybe that is where we differ?
We obviously have very differing views of the world but i wish you well in the future.

bonnie_2

For people who think homeschooling is a lifestyle choice it is not. I am doing the same for my daughter, it is not just a matter of getting a special school place either, i have actually had to get my mp involved and have a fight on my hands even though my daughter has a full statement, hands up to you we should all do what we feel is best, why should our children accept sub standard care and neglect at the hands of the leas. Luckily i get ca for her so its not to bad.