Do you think I have a right.

Kellyseye

My sister in law was made power of attorney after my mother who had some problems was committed then decided to live in a care home , I was never asked but was just happy to see my mother being well cared for and out of danger, my eldest brother lived in my mother house she owned until recently when he was taken seriously Ill and has recently moved into sheltered accommodation , my mothers house was sold and some of the money pays for my mothers care, and the rest of the money is in an account my sister in law has access to, I asked her for a statement for the money from the selling of the family home so I could find closure, my sister in law ranted and raved, using bad language and her and my brother ordered me out of the house hitting me with the glass door as I left their home telling them I would seek legal advice, they then sent the police to my house saying I had verbally abused them and was told not to contact them again, all because I wanted to know about my mothers financial affairs, what are peoples thoughts on this as it has caused me some upset, all I wanted was to see my mothers financial affairs and put closure on the family home.

travelgran

When you posted about this last month you spoke of your sister having POA. Now you are saying it's your sister in law. Even so I'm not sure why you've posted again.

ognum

Kellyseye wrote: »

My sister in law was made power of attorney after my mother who had some problems was committed then decided to live in a care home , I was never asked but was just happy to see my mother being well cared for and out of danger, my eldest brother lived in my mother house she owned until recently when he was taken seriously Ill and has recently moved into sheltered accommodation , my mothers house was sold and some of the money pays for my mothers care, and the rest of the money is in an account my sister in law has access to, I asked her for a statement for the money from the selling of the family home so I could find closure, my sister in law ranted and raved, using bad language and her and my brother ordered me out of the house hitting me with the glass door as I left their home telling them I would seek legal advice, they then sent the police to my house saying I had verbally abused them and was told not to contact them again, all because I wanted to know about my mothers financial affairs, what are peoples thoughts on this as it has caused me some upset, all I wanted was to see my mothers financial affairs and put closure on the family home.

I actually don't think you have a legal right, if you are talking about a moral right the answer is maybe!

You have posted about this before, some facts have been changed and that always worries me because I then begin to doubt your story. I think there is more to this than you are posting here and without all the information on your previous relationship with everyone then it's hard to judge.
Does you mothe have a will, who are her executes, because, if Youare not one and you also don't have POA then you will probably never know all the facts.

Kellyseye

Yes sorry stupidly I changed the story to my sister because I hadn't confronted them and thought I might cover my tracks if they happened to read this, when I mentioned I had a copy of the will to my sister in law she told me that a new will had been made out and I said there can't be as my eldest brother is the executor and he knew nothing of this, my sister in law keeps lying to me , she also told her solicitor I had been invited by her to the solicitors office to see the final statement , but she never invited me.

fluffnutter

There's another way to look at this...

Mother has mental health problems culminating in her having to give up her independence and move into a care home. Son and his wife come to her aid and agree to obtain POA so that her financial affairs can be managed properly.

Daughter who's possibly absent, certainly not that interested, wants to challenge brother and SIL because she's got wind of the fact that the house has been sold and wants her slice of the potential inheritance.

Brother and SIL, who make the effort to see mum, to manage mum's affairs etc. etc. understandably a bit annoyed.

Just saying. Who knows what's really going on? We certainly don't.

Torry_Quine

Just a point was she able to give power of attorney as you mentioned she was comitted which I presume means sectioned?

elsien

Kellyseye wrote: »

when I mentioned I had a copy of the will to my sister in law she told me that a new will had been made out and I said there can't be as my eldest brother is the executor and he knew nothing of this,.

You can be removed as executor in a change of will without being informed. The executor bit only becomes relevant after someone has died. A new will is perfectly possible even if your brother knows nothing about it, as long as your mother has capacity to make one.

Kellyseye

My brother and sil don't work , they haven't for many years smoke and drink for England , holidays abroad etc, I go and see my mother regularly and she wouldn't be able to change the will, some days she doesn't even know who I am, my sil told me the pot of cash belonging to my could be used as a little family to cash top up if any of her three sons needed it , to which I told her no way as this money has to be used for my mother.

geoffky

Get some legal help.....Phone citizens advice to book a appointment...Do something because you will not get the answers you need from here.

elsien

If you have concerns that someone is abusing the power of attorney you can report your concern. Doesn't necessarily follow that you get any more information about what is happening though. And I would guess you need some proof of some sort for them to take it seriously.
https://www.gov.uk/report-concern-about-attorney-deputy

ognum

OP you ate in a difficult position, you allowed all this to happen without objecting because it suited you, so, now you are either going to speak very nicely to your family and ask to see the bank statements or take legal action which may fail.

this is a good lesson in not. Allowing things to be done just because it was simple and easier for you at the time. Why did you let someone who you clearly have so little respect for get POA.