Dementia: broken hip

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Don't know where to start,

my mum is in 90s and has dementia

she loves her 2 grand children's but the kids behaviour is very bad and dangerous. parent don't seemed to control. when we say something the parents say that they are only children. but i said they need to control them. they did not like that.

when the kids come in the house they run riot banging doors, open close fringe doors, pulling mum's hair, throwing things around while parents laughing.

mum had 3 injuries, one lifting one them and fell and had painful around the chest area, 2nd one when one of them threw a little table on my mum's toe, she had bleed under the toe nail.

these children are of one my nephew. my nephew is very close to my elder sister who lives 130 miles away from my mum (we live 12 miles)

we have told our elder sister but she does not believe us (me and my other sister), we also warned her that major accident is waiting to happen. she took no notice.

other day mum fell and had broken her hip bone, my elder sister told me she tripped, my nephews family told different stories but paramedic report stated that she fell playing with kids. In our mind we that its something to do with these kids.

we have told social services but they said they cannot do anything as its a domestic issues.

one thing mum has dementia and she sometime shout as us saying that those kids are only kids and don't blame them. She cant even remember that she had broken hip bone. Who do we turn to?

valk_scot

So what do you want done? Some sort of restraint order on the kids, so they can't see their great-granny again? A charge of assault? Your nephews family to be taken to court and fined?

I think by the sound of it your elder sister is very much aware of what happened given that she's not told you that your mum was playing with the kids when it happened. Maybe she did trip while playing with the kids, but the kids didn't necessarily have to have caused the accident directly. But however it happened, I'm sure the adults in the family concerned have had a bit of a wake up call as to how frail your mother is.

Who does she live with btw? Because that's the person who should be laying down the law as to how boisterous any activities are, her main carer.

CH27

You'll probably never get the real truth about what happened.

I assume your Mum is in hospital? Concentrate on getting her well & the right support in place to help when she gets home.

Errata

If the home your mum is living in is unsafe because of the behaviour of others speak to the hospital about their discharge plans for her.

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valk_scot wrote: »

So what do you want done? Some sort of restraint order on the kids, so they can't see their great-granny again? A charge of assault? Your nephews family to be taken to court and fined?

I think by the sound of it your elder sister is very much aware of what happened given that she's not told you that your mum was playing with the kids when it happened. Maybe she did trip while playing with the kids, but the kids didn't necessarily have to have caused the accident directly. But however it happened, I'm sure the adults in the family concerned have had a bit of a wake up call as to how frail your mother is.

Who does she live with btw? Because that's the person who should be laying down the law as to how boisterous any activities are, her main carer.

My elder sister know what happened as she was with her at that the of accident along with kids, nephew, etc. All involved are telling different stories. We have warned her before regarding the kids to her so its a not a wake up call now. Mum lives on her own with carers in place but my elder sister lays down the law, and cannot see how boisterous the kids are.

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CH27 wrote: »

You'll probably never get the real truth about what happened.

I assume your Mum is in hospital? Concentrate on getting her well & the right support in place to help when she gets home.

Mum normally lives on her own with carers in place but since out of hospital my elder sister will stay with her.

thorsoak

Well if elder sister will be staying with her, she will see for herself if the children are being too boisterous and will have the responsibility of ensuring the safety of her mother.