have had enough of 2013 now!

choccymoose

This has to be the worst year of my life, serious family health issues, problems with kids schools, hrs at work reduced, everything breaking and costing money, found out two weeks ago that my OH of 18 years had a one night stand in May. Now had a big falling out with my step son, dropped my phone and have just had enough, I can't cope anymore with anything, 3 of my closest friemds have drifted away and I feel I have noone left any more to turn to. Surely something must go right for me at some point this year! Feeling so alone

shaz77_2

Sorry for your trouble; it's difficult to know what to say but stay tough and you will come true. Deal with the important things first such as health and people and forget now about money and material possessions.

marisco_2

I am really sorry to hear what an awful time you are having. Life can be a total b!tch at times and problems can seem to come all at once and overwhelm us. To be dealing with all that you are and for friends that you were once closest to, to be drifting away must be adding to your despair. Is there anyway you could try to reconnect with them and see if they would rally round in your time of need? If they knew what you were going through would they not want to help you?

Is it yourself that has the serious health issues or other members of your family? What support networks are in place? Could you speak with your gp and see what advice and help they could offer you?

What are the problems with the kids school? How receptive has the school been when you have raised concerns with them? If things haven't been resolved to your satisfaction yet, then go in when the school reopens and arrange a meeting. Either just with the class teacher initially or if things are really strained then also ask for the head teacher and SENCO to be present. It is in the schools interest to work with you, and to sort issues out so as they can meet the needs of your child.

I know the pain of discovering a partner has betrayed you. I hope you can find a way forward from this point. Sorry I have not been much help but I just wanted to empathise and send you a massive hug.

jinty271

I will give you the one bit of advice that was passed on to me , that has actually rung true. It is not intended to be patronising, it is meant to be pragmatic...

it has seen me through having 2 out of my 4 kids whilst still in my teens, being widowed, being homeless, being in debt, and a whole load of other stuff, but it still holds firm...


99 times out of 100, this time next year, the things that vex you now, will not matter.


Take care of yourself x

choccymoose

marisco wrote: »

I am really sorry to hear what an awful time you are having. Life can be a total b!tch at times and problems can seem to come all at once and overwhelm us. To be dealing with all that you are and for friends that you were once closest to, to be drifting away must be adding to your despair. Is there anyway you could try to reconnect with them and see if they would rally round in your time of need? If they knew what you were going through would they not want to help you?

Is it yourself that has the serious health issues or other members of your family? What support networks are in place? Could you speak with your gp and see what advice and help they could offer you?

What are the problems with the kids school? How receptive has the school been when you have raised concerns with them? If things haven't been resolved to your satisfaction yet, then go in when the school reopens and arrange a meeting. Either just with the class teacher initially or if things are really strained then also ask for the head teacher and SENCO to be present. It is in the schools interest to work with you, and to sort issues out so as they can meet the needs of your child.

I know the pain of discovering a partner has betrayed you. I hope you can find a way forward from this point. Sorry I have not been much help but I just wanted to empathise and send you a massive hug.

Hi, its my dad, terminally ill. Senco in new school sorting youngest out finally. Tried reconnecting with closest friend the evening my OH told me, I know she knows and nothing from her. Others not tried to be honest, guess I could reach out. Not been to docs, only had a day off work when I found out he had betrayed me. Just feel that I have had my fill now I must have done something pretty bad in a prior life to be going through this.
Thanks all for supportive comment's as I said originaly just feeling alone, needed some impartial advice.
Think I will call doctors in the morning

choccymoose

jinty271 wrote: »

I will give you the one bit of advice that was passed on to me , that has actually rung true. It is not intended to be patronising, it is meant to be pragmatic...

it has seen me through having 2 out of my 4 kids whilst still in my teens, being widowed, being homeless, being in debt, and a whole load of other stuff, but it still holds firm...


99 times out of 100, this time next year, the things that vex


Take care of yourself x

Strange thing is I usually find myself saying that to others, I am the strong one usually, thanks

marisco_2

I am so sorry to hear about your dad. You must be under so much stress and pressure. Are Macmillan nurses involved? They can be a huge support to the extended family as well as the patient themselves.

Good to hear the Senco at your child's school is sorting things out. Keep in contact with them and make sure they continue to do all they can to support your child. That is their job.

Such a shame the first friend you contacted hasn't responded. Do try the others. Sometimes it can help so much just to have people to turn to and talk things through with. A problem shared is halved and all that.

I hope you find your gp supportive and helpful when you contact him/her tomorrow. Could asking for a referral for some counselling perhaps be beneficial for you? Someone impartial to guide you through all your feelings and emotions might be useful.

meritaten

choccy - these bad things are NOT your fault! life happens! and yes, some years its like a nightmare you cant wake up from. BUT, it does pass, you move into calmer waters. It does not help to blame yourself when its things out of your control!
I know the feeling of expecting yourself to 'sort everything out'. it puts a lot of pressure on you.
you need to 'step back'. read back your post and you will see where it is YOU can indeed help matters. and you need to ask for help too.
go online and determine who can help you.
Take time out to gather your strength. - do some research. Prioritise. decide what will take your energy and what you can ignore.
I wish I could have done that with some family crisis in the past - age and experience have taught me that I should have stood back and thought sometimes - and not rushed in and got caught up in the 'emotions' of the moment.