Wedding present

Pee

I have a friend who is remarrying.

There are some reasons I have for thinking that she is struggling a bit financially.

My default line with wedding presents is either money for the honeymoon i.e. dollars if they are going to the US or a bottle of champagne and flutes. To be fair, this is probably what I would want myself.

There is no wedding list. Most of the guests aren't very well off.

If I give them cash in a card saying it is for a meal out together or whatever else they choose would that be ok. If I gave that you would you feel that you could put it to any debts you had if you wanted to, or put it towards your next hospital visit etc?

LEJC

just because your friend has asked for a cash gift does not mean they are necessarily struggling financially.

Many people who remarry,go into their wedding with a house full of items so the traditional type of gift is not aleways the ones most desired.

your suggestions for presents are fine...holiday money always good,or even a voucher that can be used at a chain of resturants or gift card....perhaps whilst I understand your sentiment over the bottle and glasses present,its likely to be one thats possibly duplicated by other guests and again theirs a limit to the amount of champagne flutes a couple needs.

If your bride and groom do ultimately decide to spend their cash gift on taxis to and from destinations or indeed a utility bill then that choice is theirs although I am sure whatever you choose to give then will be acceped greatfully and appreciated.

It may just be that the couple appreciate the guests are not financially well off and as they have the basics to set up their home and married life together there is little need to ask for it again...and they may also just value the time you spend with them celebrating their day over a monery gift

sheeppappar

Pee wrote: »

If I give them cash in a card saying it is for a meal out together or whatever else they choose would that be ok. If I gave that you would you feel that you could put it to any debts you had if you wanted to, or put it towards your next hospital visit etc?

Yes I think that is fine - especially if you say "or whatever else you choose" - I don't think they will feel obliged to use it in any way other than where they need to spend it x

ska_lover

A bottle of champagne and flutes? Sorry but that is a really dull gift, very dull and not a lot of thought gone into it

Cash is definately a nice thought though - i would go with that

redfragglebiker

I would also go with the cash gift. We're asking for cash from any guest that wish to get us something on our special day (making it abundantly clear that we value their presence not their presents!) as we already have a home set up together but are unlikely to be able to afford a honeymoon so anyone that chooses to contribute will be helping us have our first break away as a married couple.
Besides which if it turns out she DOES have financial issues at the moment a gift of cash may enable them to start paying things off and therefore starting married life on a better footing.

Stephb1986_2

I would go with a cash gift too, just because they might of asked for cash doesn't mean they are struggling for money we were thinking of asking for money but I feel cheeky so I'm leaving the gift list out of the invites.

My step sister is getting married next month, I am making her a paper cut with her wedding date on it etc (sounds naff but it's lovely) and a bottle of champagne.

Steph xx

Luella-14_2

I think it's a good idea, how you've phrased it works well.
I also think champagne and flutes is lovely, I'd always be happy to receive some fizz!

Pee

I should make it clear that they haven't asked for money.

lisajane8482

We got a lovely picture handmade by one of our Ushers and his partner which has our RSVP card on it (our RSVP card had a poem on it). We really do love it as its so diferent and personal. We also got a voucher for a local restaurant and cinema and although it may seem like some that "it will just be the same as other times" it was our first time out as husband and wife, it was only a meal and a trip to the cinema but it was so nice and has lead to our monthly "date night".

themull1

I'm getting married in December, and i'm hoping for no booze because neither of us drink!!

GwylimT

When we got married we received several packages that were naff champagne flutes like you would see in clintons, neither of us drink alcohol and our family and friends know this!

If we don't know what to get someone we give cash/cheque as we would rather them buy something they want instead of thoughtlessly buying something a bit naff for the sake of it.