What's an erection mum?

teabag29

This is what my 14 soon to be 15 year old daughter has just asked me after watching big brother on catch up (hearing Sam say he had an erection or something). Thing is she's 15 but has special needs and although she has the attitude of a 14 year old she's functioning educationally etc more around age 8 so its hard to balance telling her what she should know at her chronological age to what she is mature enough to know at her functioning age.

I kind of brushed off the answer to we'll have a chat when your little sister has gone to bed :eek:

balletshoes

When my 11-year old DD asked me that, I told her its what happens sometimes to a boy's penis when they get excited.

Torry_Quine

I think that you need to tell her the truth in language she will understand.

However is this really a suitable programme for her to be watching.

geoffky

Do not beat around the bush,It does know-one any favours long-term.
Open honest talk is good..

Heffi1

Have a look at this book, I hear it is supposed to be very good at explaining things in ways that kids understand.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Dr-Christians-Guide-Growing-ebook/dp/B00BI10QG8/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1375901300&sr=1-1&keywords=christian+jessen


No question is too cringey for Embarrassing Bodies expert Dr Christian! In this no-nonsense guide, he's here to answer all those awkward questions about puberty, your body and the process of growing up.

peachyprice

Duh, I thought you were asking what an 'erection mum' was. I was going to say I'd never heard of it

fluffnutter

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I think that you need to tell her the truth in language she will understand.

However is this really a suitable programme for her to be watching.

The thing is, if she's 14 and all her mates are watching it, you can't stop her, even if she's educationally more around the age of an 8 year old. You can't treat her like an 8 year old in terms of sexual or physical development, because she's not. One of the things that people do if they have children with special needs is to (understandably) baby them a little but it's not great to see a whopping great teenager with boobs (girls) or stubble (boys) being treated like a little girl or boy. What should she be watching? Peppa Pig or some such?

It's difficult but if every other 14 year old is watching BB and she wants to then she should be able to.

Torry_Quine

fluffnutter wrote: »

The thing is, if she's 14 and all her mates are watching it, you can't stop her, even if she's educationally more around the age of an 8 year old. You can't treat her like an 8 year old in terms of sexual or physical development, because she's not. One of the things that people do if they have children with special needs is to (understandably) baby them a little but it's not great to see a whopping great teenager with boobs (girls) or stubble (boys) being treated like a little girl or boy. What should she be watching? Peppa Pig or some such?

It's difficult but if every other 14 year old is watching BB and she wants to then she should be able to.

I doubt it would be suitable for any 14 year old, the live shows certainly. :eek:

She should be watching things that are appropriate for what she can understand and if that's children's programmes I don't see the problem. The OP can certainly stop her watching it at home though.

Dunroamin

fluffnutter wrote: »

The thing is, if she's 14 and all her mates are watching it, you can't stop her, even if she's educationally more around the age of an 8 year old. You can't treat her like an 8 year old in terms of sexual or physical development, because she's not. One of the things that people do if they have children with special needs is to (understandably) baby them a little but it's not great to see a whopping great teenager with boobs (girls) or stubble (boys) being treated like a little girl or boy. What should she be watching? Peppa Pig or some such?

It's difficult but if every other 14 year old is watching BB and she wants to then she should be able to.

I don't really think that BBs suitable for any 14 year olds, but that's probably just me.

Person_one

This is a great book that explains everything in a straight forward way an 8 year old can understand:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Usborne-Facts-Growing-Adolescence-changes/dp/0746031424

Fluff makes a very good point though that your daughter will require a more complex approach.

supersaver2

Dunroamin wrote: »

I don't really think that BBs suitable for any 14 year olds, but that's probably just me.

I don't think it's suitable for anybody of any age, load of rubbish!

I think you as her mum needs to sit down and tell her in a way that she will understand, you know her best and what she will understand. My mum used the how our body works books to explain about reproduction and puberty, not sure if you can still buy them. Has she had any form of sex education at school yet?