Advice for a friend

chirpychick

My best friend has finally ended a very horrific relationship with a vile, nasty man.
The problem is that they have a young daughter together and my friend is currently pregnant with no2.
She kicked him out 3 months ago and he has continued to emotionally bully her with constant text messages, phone calls, threats etc
The latest is that she has made him homeless as the council will only put him in a B&B an hour away so he wont get to see his kids so he may as well kill himself.
She is distraught.
I have managed to rationalise things for her and got her head clear of his manipulation explaining that he wont be homeless unless he chooses not to accept a b&b and if he does he is making himself homeless and it is not her fault.
Also telling her that most people who do kill themselves don't tend to threaten others that they will in advance.
I think she is seeing things a bit more clear.
The thing is, whilst they are organising childcare between them, he will always be texting and ringing and turning up at the house making threats, scaring her, emotionally blackmailing her etc that I really think that she needs to arrange childcare via a contact centre so that she can change her number and not have anything to do with him (even if it means taking out a restraining order so he can't go to her house).
She said she has been thinking about this too but that she has no idea how to go about it.

So I am seeking advice on what she needs to do so that she can have as minimal contact with this vile man as possible.

I will say he has been in prison, the police are well aware of domestic violence from him and things like that so it's not just my opinion that he is a nasty piece of work. It is genuinely a horrific situation.

He told their little girl (6) that mummy had sent daddy to prison because she didnt want him living their anymore - He was constantly telling my best friend that he felt like his hostel was like prison.

He cleared out their house and didn't even leave the washing machine etc etc.

They are both suffering so much and she is now also worried about her unborn baby and wants to get things in place before the baby is born.

Any advice would be very much appreciated.

notanewuser

Is he on the birth certificate for the eldest?

If i were she I'd "disappear".

Funky_Bold_Ribena

Chuck the phone in the nearest river, get a new one and whilst she's at it - as NANU says - disappear from his life as quickly as she can.

sassyblue

Is anyone willing to take her phone and act as the go between, while she gets a new one?

Beforehand though in case he kicks off can she get a panic alarm installed her house by the police?

Has she spoken to women's aid?

Good luck x