Disabled person wanting to move out, where do i start?!

reddevildanni

Ok basically i'm 22 years old and i currently live at home with my mum & my grandparents, its very stressful and i hate it. I get no privacy away from my grandparents & we argue constantly & i've decided i want to leave.

I'm severely disabled & my mum is my carer, i've spoken to her about it & she's agreed that i shouldn't have to live like this and she wants to move with me. However, we don't know where to start as we have lived here for 20 years nearly!

This house that we are in now is a joint tenancy between my mum, nanna and grandad. My mum has her rent paid by her housing benefit & i have to pay toward the rent as i am a "non-dependant" Our house is 3 bed (4 if you count my downstairs extension) & we would be looking for a 3 bedroom bungalow because if we move out i will require overnight care.

The thing is, i've looked on our local housing assosiations website & there are no properties available which are suitable. Would it need to be a council property for my mum to still be able to have her rent paid?? Or could we get a private one and still be entitled to the housing benefit?

Also the bungalow would need to be adapted, would social services adapt it if it wasn't a council property??

Sorry if my questions sound silly but i've never done anything like this before & its confusing!

witchy1066

first off you need to go and talk to your council , if you council house has been adapted to your needs , the other option may be to move your grandparents to a more suitable place for them ,

another problem you might encounter is the 3 bedrooms and the bedroom tax but if you need a night carer you might get away with only paying extra on one room,

also get in touch with any housing associations in your area , the council should have a list,

you never know a HA may have something that will suit your needs already on their books but if not you can put your name down anyway so nothing lost but as I said at the beginning go speak to your council and if you get no joy ask them if they have a Council Arbitration service,

another option is make an appointment with the CAB they sometimes have lists of organisations that should be able to give you better advice than on a forum

also , I am not going to pry into your disability but do you not have an organisation associated with your disability , they can pull all sorts of strings , so worth contacting

HTH

pmlindyloo

You can receive housing benefit even if you rent privately. No problem.

Have you actually visited your local council and asked about housing? Are you on the housing list? They should be able to give you support and advice even if there is currently no suitable council housing available.

This is quite a difficult one as your mum is currently in a tenancy agreement and therefore actually is not homeless. You, on the other hand have no liability for rent and therefore might be entitled to priority housing if relationships have broken down.

On the other hand your mum needs to move with you as she is your carer. Also you need specially adapted accommodation. Has your present house been adapted for you by social services?

Have you a social worker that you could talk to about all this?

Quite a complicated scenario so suggest you get some help from Social Services, your local council and perhaps CAB.

Good luck with it all.

reddevildanni

Yes our current house has been fully adapted for me. Even though our relationship has broken down, they are still my grandparents and i'd feel awful making them move out, even though it would be much easier.

pmlindyloo

Perhaps before you speak to anyone else you might want to have a chat with your grandparents and your mum. How do your grandparents feel about the situation?

Of course I have no idea what your relationship with them is like but you may be surprised by their reactions.

It must be a very difficult situation for all of you.

Is this house social housing or their own house?

reddevildanni

It's a social housing property. It's very hard to have a family talk without causing World War 3 & at the moment nobody is talking to eachother

Full_of_angst

reddevildanni wrote: »

It's a social housing property. It's very hard to have a family talk without causing World War 3 & at the moment nobody is talking to eachother

You shouldn't have to live with your Grandparents, particularly if the relationship has broken down. You need help to sort this out from social services and any disability advisors you are in contact with. At 22 and disabled you will still come under the Advisa service (used to be called Connexions) - so they would be someone else to contact. Basically contact everyone and anyone who is involved with supporting you with your disability and also anyone else who people on here have advised.

Good luck, and I really feel for you and hope you can get something sorted.

pmlindyloo

reddevildanni wrote: »

It's a social housing property. It's very hard to have a family talk without causing World War 3 & at the moment nobody is talking to eachother

Sorry, realised it can't be their house- they have a tenancy agreement.


Understand the World War 3 situation but sooner or later you will have to talk........


Go for it!

caeler

reddevildanni wrote: »

It's a social housing property. It's very hard to have a family talk without causing World War 3 & at the moment nobody is talking to eachother

And you think moving out one day without any communication won't cause ww3?! Sorry but as others have said, time to have 'the chat'.

If nobody is talking to one another, maybe your grandparents are miserable (but feel guilty because your all family and they love you unconditionally but that doesn't mean they like current living arrangements) and want to find a solution but you'll have to be the brave one and voice it.

Good luck

paddedjohn

OP, how old are your grandparents? do you have any social worker that could maybe arbitrate between you all and maybe suggest sheltered housing for them letting you stay in the adapted property?

reddevildanni

They are 73 & 78, i don't currently have a social worker but i've had one in the past so i'm sure i could contact them again.