Should you tell tax credits office if new relationship forms...

d4d74

duchy wrote: »

Would you consider yourself in a live in relationship if you spent Friday and Saturday night at a girlfriend's each week ?

They live together Friday,Saturday and Sunday )at his, and also Monday Tuesday at her house, so that's 5 days a week.

duchy wrote: »

If apart from holidays it's only two nights AND they have kept their finances seperate there is unlikely to be an issue if she is investigated...... However odds are her benefits woul be stoppe whilst the investigation goes on -so that would impact on the children (and possibly any good relationship you have with your wife currently.)

Yes exactly, I've asked her just to contact them to be on the safe side but she won't said its private matter. Im just concerned that if she carries on like this (she is currently looking to rent into the same road as where he lives) and I think she is running the risk of being investigated for fraud? why have two houses when they could live together? it seems strange to me.

d4d74

princessdon wrote: »

I can see why you are concerned, you have the children virtually the same amount of time (3 nights a week), yet she gets all the benefits.

However, what you say is not reportable, people are allowed relationships and staying over. If he contributes financially to her household, uses her address for postage and or credit/finances, they share bills etc, then yes this is reportable. Having a new relationship and staying over isn't classed as living as if husband and wife.

Ah okay thanks for that, didn't know that. Well I also have the youngest on Tuesday morning aswell, and she wants me to take the kids to school on the Wednesday too, she doesn't get all the benefits, because we have shared custody we contacted HMRC and both get child benefit/tax credits although obviously mine is a lot less than hers because I earn more, but we both sat down and were happy with that (we earn same amount per month so no arguments there (yet!)).

d4d74

Jobseeeker wrote: »

They are not living together

he pays rent/council tax and bills somewhere else. Therefore there is no money saved by them dating. She is in the same financial position as she would be if she wasn't dating anyone

HMRC do not care about your love life, only about your financial affairs

He lives with his mum and pays her a bit to live there. I don't have a problem with her new love life, as I've met someone wonderful recently, just I'm worried that she's treading a fine line, and at end of the day don't want kids to suffer if she gets into trouble, but advice given taken that fear away, thanks.

Molly41

Do you each claim for a child then?

You cannot each claim for both children obviously!

d4d74

Molly41 wrote: »

Do you each claim for a child then?

You cannot each claim for both children obviously!

Yes we claim for one child each, we had an amicable split.

princessdon

You know I'm smiling as I read your posts, hats off to the pair of you in the maturity you have with parenting.

At the moment there is nothing to report, to give you guidance on this relationship or as your own develops here is the link to how they look at whether they consider them a couple.

http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/manuals/tctmanual/TCTM09340.htm


There are lots of factors they use then weigh up probability.

Eg - my husband is employed hundreds of miles away, he work an average of 2 days at home and 3 days away. He has a flat elsewhere with costs, another address, yet we are clearly a couple and have lots of things that indicate that. Some couples separate yet live under the same roof (mortgage or caring responsibilities) who are not a couple.

It's weighing up many things,

Good luck and thanks for making me smile.

zzzLazyDaisy

Good luck with your new relationship too, it is good to hear that you are both moving on and are managing to be amicable for the sake of the children. But do remember that all the points you raise about her new relationship can equally be raised about yours. You don't want to be looking over your shoulder any more than she does.