Wedding present question

jenhug

ska_lover wrote: »

Haha I agree with Georgiegirl, I thought that as soon as I read the 1st post.

OP it's like you are saying to the bride that she is a scruffy get, and needs to get her house cleaned and her ironing done and think she can't cope.

Please do not buy this as a gift, it could be percieved as insulting! I am half inclined to think the OP is trolling!!

I haven't bought this as a gift, and I am definitely not trolling. Bit of a weird subject to troll about really!

jenhug

If it was bought as a gift for a couple you knew well, would it still be offensive? for many people now they marry after they have had their children and are a busy working family. If someone bought you 2 months worth of ironing or cleaning as a gift, leaving you more leisure time as a family, is that not a thoughtful gift?

TigerLilly1003

I would definitely go for the ironing out of the two. I wouldn't find it offensive.. I would just think wow saves me lots of time! The cleaning idea.. may be perceived as a little offensive however the main thing for me would be that i wouldn't use it as a) I like to do my cleaning myself so that i know its done properly and I wouldn't want the awkwardness of a stranger in my house poking round my things or thinking gosh what a messy couple! I would feel self conscious and would clean the whole house before the cleaner got there!

duchy

jenhug wrote: »

If it was bought as a gift for a couple you knew well, would it still be offensive? for many people now they marry after they have had their children and are a busy working family. If someone bought you 2 months worth of ironing or cleaning as a gift, leaving you more leisure time as a family, is that not a thoughtful gift?

Sounds like you've already made up your mind .................or are doing market research !

If it was someone who knew me very well -they'd know I loathe housework -if the present came from a fellow housework loather then I'd appreciate it-however if it came from someone whose home was always immaculate - then I'd probably take offence-so I don't think the "how well you know them" makes a big difference.

Frankly someone hinting I don't spend enough time with my family wouldn't go down a bomb either. Friend would be regarded as judgmental and over stepping the mark.

It obviously isn't what you want to hear but it many cases it would be a disastrous gift . The fact you can't see the possible pitfalls probably means you shouldn't be giving it !!

So ...if you *haven't* bought it as a gift.......WHY are you asking -if not trolling ?

ramavtarsharma

CompBunny wrote: »

I would welcome vouchers for a cleaner with open arms as a wedding gift!!

Especially if you put a little note in saying something like "So you can spend your time as newlyweds doing more important things!"

Although I agree that it depends on your relationship with the couple as to whether they would take offense or not

This is right that relationship is most. According to relationship we decide for Gift. And which occasion.:j

Valli

jenhug wrote: »

If it was bought as a gift for a couple you knew well, would it still be offensive? for many people now they marry after they have had their children and are a busy working family. If someone bought you 2 months worth of ironing or cleaning as a gift, leaving you more leisure time as a family, is that not a thoughtful gift?

I read a book by the comedian Jackie Clune. She had two pregnancies fairly close togeter and ended up with 4 children under 5 (IIRC) having given birth to a singleton then triplets :eek:
One of her post-triplet gifts was a nanny for a month. I'm sure that was much appreciated

so

if it's for a couple who both work and who, maybe, have most things already then it could be a useful gift. I'd run it by them first, though!

I once gave my best mate vouchers for 4 cleaning sessions in her bathroom as a Christmas Gift - I was the cleaner!

I don't think the OP's trolling - she's a fairly regular poster. Perhaps she's thinking about it for a gift, perhaps someone in her circle is and she wanted some more opinions on it!

Samzyzg

I think its an amazing idea and if you know the couple well then not really something to worry about as you know how they would take it. I definitely think a nice note would be required explaining why you think its the perfect gift for them
I'm not really sure why people would take it as an insult, but then again thats me.

Georgiegirl256

jenhug wrote: »

If it was bought as a gift for a couple you knew well, would it still be offensive? for many people now they marry after they have had their children and are a busy working family. If someone bought you 2 months worth of ironing or cleaning as a gift, leaving you more leisure time as a family, is that not a thoughtful gift?

This is just my personal opinion, but yes, I still think its abit offensive....unless they have actually expressed an interest in such a gift, and in that instance it would be ok. But if they've never even give a hint that it might be something they might like, then I think it's abit dicey.

My Mam (who obviously I know very well :rotfl: ), is so house proud, and would be offended if anyone bought her such a gift....even me. She wouldn't see it as 'I thought you deserved to put your feet up/have some time to yourself', she would see it as me thinking that her standards were slipping or that she needed help.

jenhug

duchy wrote: »

Sounds like you've already made up your mind .................or are doing market research !

It obviously isn't what you want to hear but it many cases it would be a disastrous gift . The fact you can't see the possible pitfalls probably means you shouldn't be giving it !!

So ...if you *haven't* bought it as a gift.......WHY are you asking -if not trolling ?

I was actually asking because a friend bought some for a friend as a gift, and I didn't know how I would feel about it if it had been for me, and I can say, hand on heart I am neither troll or conducting market research. I am disabled, I struggle to clean my own house, there isn't any way I could clean someone elses!

I have to be honest, I feel slightly hurt that people think I am a troll, for one, I have been a member here for quite some time, and two, what a really weird subject to try and troll!

duchy

It sounded odd that you had no intention of buying such a gift yet still wanted opinions. So thanks for explaining why you weren't trolling