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Moving in with my GF who is on Benefits

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  • fluffysox
    fluffysox Posts: 1,060 Forumite
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    Personally I think until you are ready to be a family i.e. to share financial, household responsibility and be the "Daddy" so to speak you shouldn't be moving in. Sounds harsh I know but if the financial sacrifice is the main concern you have then you aren't ready to take on a family. Its not fair to the mother or child.
    While you still see things as "her's" or "mine" you are better off having your own space and letting the baby have the stability of a parent who wouldn't have to consider whether she wants to sacrifice some luxuries in order to be there.
    If however reading this message makes you think again about your priorities and reassess your motivation, then look for a job in her area or move her to yours and go for it 100%. :T
    2016 MFW OPd £2000, 2015 MFW OPd 3000 then bought new bigger house with bigger mortgage.
    MFW OPd 2014 £2000 2013 £9700 2012 £2848.39 2011 £2509.58 2010 £11000 2009 £112002008 £4939 :D
    Beautiful boys born May 2011 and October 2013 :)
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