Father terminally ill - his will is causing problems

System

You're right, but its hard because of the constant digs about it which I'm finding exhausting. For eg today she refused to make any calls to the district nurses, Marie cutie etc, she puts the phone in my hand and says you do it, which is fine as I like to feel I'm helping, but then my brother says 'make her warm her money' - it's non stop but thanks for the reminder, it can be hard to see when you're in the thick of it

System

Apologies for the typos in my last post, 'warm' should have read earn.

Mojisola wrote: »

This is how a lot of people feel about the way an estate is distributed. It can leave a lot of hurt and be especially hard to deal with when your emotions are all over the place, dealing with grief.

I hope your brother comes to terms with things but it might take a while.

Thanks, he was so close to dad that he feels its ruined his life memories that an ex is more valued than his son. It's so very sad

nom_de_plume

Working with your father's valuations, your understanding of the will's contents and assuming the other legacies total £215,000 (I've read your first post as a total of £15,000 to friends / family), yours and your brother's inheritance would have been greater than £200,000 each. Perhaps he does actually 'value' you both greater!?
More importantly though is your father's time is coming to an end. Make it as peaceful and comfortable as you can for him.

System

nom_de_plume wrote: »

Working with your father's valuations, your understanding of the will's contents and assuming the other legacies total £215,000 (I've read your first post as a total of £15,000 to friends / family), yours and your brother's inheritance would have been greater than £200,000 each. Perhaps he does actually 'value' you both greater!?
More importantly though is your father's time is coming to an end. Make it as peaceful and comfortable as you can for him.

yes, i know this. I am not sure why people keep asking me to do this when I am.

as explained, his valuations are incorrect and the tax will be deducted from the estate and named amounts paid first, leaving my brother and I less than the ex. I have explained my reasons for asking this several times.

this is all now old worries as I have heard from someone else (currently unnamed in my dad's testament) tonight that they are intending to contest the will because they believe he is under duress re: the ex and asking me & my brother to support their contest, and its a complete disaster. They say the flat isn't my fathers. I don't know what the deeds say (presumably that it is my fathers) but it should have been divided between my uncles as it was my grandmothers. This is starting to sound ridiculous now and like I am making it up, i need proper legal advice which I will be seeking.

Thanks for the more helpful advice, I'm leaving this thread for now unless i need some more relevant money advice.

RAS

Hi

Suggest that you obtain a copy of the title for the flat from the Land Registry to start with:
http://www.landregistry.gov.uk/public/online-services

It costs £3

Mojisola

MagicCarpet wrote: »

They say the flat isn't my fathers. I don't know what the deeds say (presumably that it is my fathers) but it should have been divided between my uncles as it was my grandmothers.

RAS wrote: »

Suggest that you obtain a copy of the title for the flat from the Land Registry to start with:
http://www.landregistry.gov.uk/public/online-services

And a copy of your grandmother's will and probate records -
https://www.justice.gov.uk/courts/probate/copies-of-grants-wills

pauletruth

why are you and your brother even bothering with the will. eave that to a later date.
on your guess of £750k the estate not you are liable to pay roughly 300,000. in tax. if your dad is right then 360,000

however what ever he leave you and your brother be grateful.

he must value his wife/ ex wife. was the will written before they divorced. if so the will is not valid.

beckysbobbles1

Am I completely wrong in thinking that any debts and IHT have to be paid from the estate prior to monies being distrubuted?

I suppose the only issue is, fi the ex has been listed as the specific amount of £200k then ultimately this will be paid and then you will have the remainder divided.

troubleinparadise

beckysbobbles1 wrote: »

Am I completely wrong in thinking that any debts and IHT have to be paid from the estate prior to monies being distrubuted?

That is correct.

I suppose the only issue is, fi the ex has been listed as the specific amount of £200k then ultimately this will be paid and then you will have the remainder divided.

I think that is OP's point - that she and her brother will individually receive less than half the amount that their father's ex will.