Holding it together...

cazziebo

How do you?

We've gone from a very small wedding to a bit of a family reunion. I come from quite a large family, who live all over the world. We never get together as such, although different parts meet up at different times e.g. some of the US ones come here on holiday regularly. It usually all gets very emotional!

It will be the first time I'll see some of the children, and possibly the last I'll some of the older ones. My father, aunt and uncle have all passed away in the past few years and this will be the first gathering without any of them.

My older brother is walking me down the aisle - he's a bit of a crybaby. He lives in Canada and I've only seen him once in 10 years. He doesn't do Facebook but his kids and wife do so I'm in touch with them daily. Whenever we talk on the phone we get teary - he always launches into his "back home" stories (he's been away for more than 40 years!)

And I'm a hormonal, menopausal crank marrying someone who is way better than I deserve. I can see me either taking fright and refusing to come out of a cupboard, or bubbling my way all through the service.

Seriously - any hints for staving off the tears?

floss2

Can you have a family reunion meet-up the day/evening before? Just so you get it all out & done with before the wedding?

cazziebo

Thanks, Floss2. We probably will as people gather together.

Not sure that will help me get through the day though! I'm not pretty when I cry..

Georgiegirl256

Cazziebo, im exactly the same, I can cry at the drop of a hat! :rotfl:

Sometimes I can be abit of a hard faced b*tch, I think a lot of the time that's abit of a defence mechanism!

We're only having a small wedding as neither of us fancy the big do and being the centre of attention, but I know what I'm like, we'll start saying the vows or something, and I'll be away, bottom lip trembling. :rotfl:

The OH was wondering what the vows were that we had to say, and found them on the Internet, and read them out, by the end we were both on tears, and he was like "how far do you think we'll get in before one of us starts crying?!

Just don't look into anyone's eyes, just stare at something else, that's what I'm going to do :rotfl:

74jax

cazziebo wrote: »

And I'm a hormonal, menopausal crank marrying someone who is way better than I deserve. I can see me either taking fright and refusing to come out of a cupboard, or bubbling my way all through the service.

Seriously - any hints for staving off the tears?

I defo think you need to meet before the wedding! cry as much as you like, have some wine if that helps and 'try' and get all the emotions out.

On the day, if you are an emotional person anyway, then sorry, I would say you're gonna cry.... but you know what? It's who you are. It's what you are. Your OH is marrying YOU. He found you, fell in love with you and wants to make a declaration to you. Not someone else less emotional.... not someone trying to be someone they're not. You are both marrying each other as EQUALS, you both deserve each other and both equally as lucky to be doing so. Without the other, neither one of you would be a couple.

I am a hard faced b!tch the majority of the time :rotfl:but very emotional when it comes to my daughter, partner, brother, and friends. My friends are my world and I love they are in my life. So I knew I would cry. I walked down the aisle myself with a hankie :rotfl:.

My (now :T) husband switched our vows to that of the ones Joey reads in Friends, so when I figured that out I fell about laughing - not crying. however during the exchange of rings I did cry, I didn't do the whole snot down my face and blubbering wreck scenario, but I cried tears and just wiped them away.

My best friend cried. She broke down just before we walked in the room - she went down the aisle with my daughter first, and she went down crying.

My brother said a few words at night and started off with 'normally it falls to the father of the bride for the speach, but you all know the cercumstances and so it has been passed to me'.......... now that seriously made me blubber!

HeadAboveWater

You have me crying at your post 74jax

cazziebo

She's got me crying, too! Blubbering wreck now..

Thank you for that, Jax!

Pinzy

I know I'm bound to cry, I'm just investing in some seriously strong waterproof mascara! I'm almost hoping the other half will make me laugh with his stupid faces, but he may well blub too!

I'm not sure there's much you can do to stave it off, the reunions beforehand will help. Maybe watch something like that horsey war film so you're so drained from blubbing that there's less to come out on the day? (Mind you, don't do that the night before - puffy eyes! Maybe sleep with cucumber strapped to your eyelids.)

Georgiegirl256

I have an awful habit of getting the giggles when I feel nervous or feel uncomfortable and in situations when I really shouldn't

So I would much prefer to get the giggles than cry, but known me, I'll be blubbing, and if I'm not, then the OH probably will be, and that'll set me off. He's a big softy really!

74jax

HeadAboveWater wrote: »

You have me crying at your post 74jax

cazziebo wrote: »

She's got me crying, too! Blubbering wreck now..

urmmmm ok, well yep if that made you cry your are both gonna cry on the day :rotfl: I didn't mean it to, just sometime you can get caught up in the whole wedding planning thing and forget that it's actually about you both getting married (does that make sense...) so don't go off course about who the two of you are. If you are emotionally normally and cry, then that is who you are and who your OH want to marry.

Don't think about the day as it must go 'to plan' and you don't want to by a blubbering wreck and ruin the moment and youd on't want to get emotional blah blah. Why the hell can't you is what I think; it's your day and the only day you can do what the blazes you like (within reason :rotfl:).

74jax

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I have an awful habit of getting the giggles when I feel nervous or feel uncomfortable and in situations when I really shouldn't

When I finally clicked on what Hubby had done with the vows I bent over laughing I was laughing that much, I wouldn't change it at all.