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Buying inherited property

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  • Werdnal
    Werdnal Posts: 3,780 Forumite
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    ValHaller wrote: »
    I would assume that while distasteful it is valid practical advice which overrides considerations of offence.

    Whilst I agree it does happen, in this modern, caring and medically advanced society, it is much more rare for people to die at home. If they did pass away in thE house, anything connected to the deceased should have already been removed from the property. I live in a 300 year old farmhouse, formerly 2 properties now knocked into one, and do not even think of how many people may have passed away within its walls in that time - there was atleast one suicide aswell. But to suggest that you enter into discussions with a grieving family by asking where their dear departed died is taking things too far!

    And if the family are not willing to impart such information, do you suggest they go around the house looking for blood stains or bodliy fluids, or scour the local press to find the obituary of the deceased to see if they passed at home. Its a very stupid and thoughtless remark, and totally irrelevant to the purchase of the property.
  • Dan-Dan
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    ^^^^

    agreed

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  • ValHaller
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    Werdnal wrote: »
    Whilst I agree it does happen, in this modern, caring and medically advanced society, it is much more rare for people to die at home. If they did pass away in thE house, anything connected to the deceased should have already been removed from the property. I live in a 300 year old farmhouse, formerly 2 properties now knocked into one, and do not even think of how many people may have passed away within its walls in that time - there was atleast one suicide aswell. But to suggest that you enter into discussions with a grieving family by asking where their dear departed died is taking things too far!

    And if the family are not willing to impart such information, do you suggest they go around the house looking for blood stains or bodliy fluids, or scour the local press to find the obituary of the deceased to see if they passed at home. Its a very stupid and thoughtless remark, and totally irrelevant to the purchase of the property.
    I don't take the suggestion as referring to any spiritualist aspects of the deceased's room of departure and there are sensitive ways of asking.

    We bought a house - and got a bargain - which had terrible pet smells. We dealt with it. And just because it was a person who died, I don't see that there is any need to pretend that it didn't happen or that there might be no smells

    I think that it is at least as stupid to pretend that it is irrelevant to the purchase.
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  • Dan-Dan
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    Val , how on earth is it relevant to ask WHICH room the person died in , now THAT`S surley irrelevant ?!
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  • rosyw
    rosyw Posts: 519 Forumite
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    Dan-Dan wrote: »
    Val , how on earth is it relevant to ask WHICH room the person died in , now THAT`S surley irrelevant ?!


    I totally agree!

    I bought a house in which someone had died, I knew which room he died in as I was there when it happened, but if I hadn't known I most certainly would not have asked!

    I sold that house several years later following my husbands death, he also died in that house and I would have been highly offended if anyone viewing the house had asked.

    It is difficult enough having to deal with the sale of a property belonging to a loved one who has died without people asking stupid questions! If it worries anyone that a person MAY have died in a property, buy a new build, it's the only way you can be sure!
  • Werdnal
    Werdnal Posts: 3,780 Forumite
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    edited 18 June 2013 at 8:11AM
    So are you suggesting that if the deceased passed away at home, the buyers need to renovate, fumigate and totally sanitise the particular room they passed away in as a priority. Total and utter b@!!@cks!

    By the way, I wasn't giving any "spiritual" context to my previous reply, merely stating that people do sometimes die at home, and unless there was perhaps some particularly grisly crime commited that resulted in their death (house near us was scene of 3 murders 15 years ago - which is perhaps a slightly different situation, but has gone on to change hands atleast twice since then), I hardly feel it has any relevance whatsoever to the OP buying this property. The "murder" situation is only actually an issue for me as the stigma of it being well reported in the press, has possibly affected the value of it, as local people still refer to it now - "oh that house ... you know what happened there ...".

    My mum and dad spent many years running an old people's home. If someone dying in a particular room was an issue, they would have gone out of business very quickly, as many residents did pass away in the property, and rooms were very soon let to others. Of course, they were throughly cleaned and ex-resident's personal effects removed, but rarely re-decorated, re-carpeted or re-furnished every time!

    You may have a squeamish view of this, but I feel you are in the minority here. Its not like the buyers will be sleeping in the same bed as the previous dead owner ... if you ever have to stay is hospital, so you ever ask "has anyone died in this bed?" - a far more likely scenario if you think about it.

    There is absolutely nothing for OP to worry about even if the original owner did die at home and to suggest it is an issue, is IMO absolute rubbish!
  • fishpond
    fishpond Posts: 1,022 Forumite
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    Forgot to mention about not using the BBQ, the relatives may have done a Money Saving home cremation!
    I am a LandLord,(under review) so there!:p
  • ValHaller
    ValHaller Posts: 5,212 Forumite
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    Werdnal wrote: »
    So are you suggesting that if the deceased passed away at home, the buyers need to renovate, fumigate and totally sanitise the particular room they passed away in as a priority. Total and utter b@!!@cks!
    While it may not be necessary, every death is different and it is equal Total and utter b@!!@cks! to suggest it is never necessary.
    You might as well ask the Wizard of Oz to give you a big number as pay a Credit Referencing Agency for a so-called 'credit-score'
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