Fitting everything in

joedenise

I don't do ironing either - gave it up a couple of years after getting married so not ironed anything for the last 40 years:rotfl:and don't intend doing any either!

I don't worry too much about tidying up and I have a ton of paperwork still to go through and either file properly or shred. Think I might take on Pigpen's suggestion of just dealing with 5 bits a day until it all goes - unfortunately there is sometimes more than that to add to the pile in one one, when all the bank statements, credit card statements & bills all seem to arrive at the same time!

Denise

Spudsey

pigpen wrote: »

We used to have his brother who sadly passed away rather suddenly a while ago. But no, I'm not having any more after him.. it is too sad when they die.

Oh I'm sorry :sad::sad: My female is on her third partner, I wasn't sure whether to bond her again last year as she is quite fiesty but its worked out really well. I lost my last one last July when I was off work ill, I was devasted.

Spudsey

Gers wrote: »

I've also given up ironing... the adult male in the house does his own work shirts and I don't iron anything of mine! Wash, dry and put on. Body heat does it. Mind you I don't need to wear formal work clothes so not ironing may not be good for everyone.

Yes, I do like getting into a bed with freshly laundered and crisply ironed sheets but I have that fix with staying in hotels at least one night a week for work so can do without the rest of the time.

Make a list? What's good to do in your life and what stresses you out and see what can be eliminated. Ironing? Washing the dishes?

Hope you feel better soon.

I only iron my work shirts and trousers, everything else is washed and worn straight from the laundry basket! I don't iron my quilt covers or anything either but admit they are nice when ironed!

Going out for a walk tonight with a friend instead of our normal fitness class, we had some sad news yesterday of a friends husband who passed away suddenly.

raphanius

I also go to my parents for a visit otherwise they’ll start moaning when they haven’t seen me, despite them having far more time than me!

I have a constant laundry pile

combine the two by inviting parents to yours and hinting. mum's love ironing for some strange reason

pigpen

raphanius wrote: »

combine the two by inviting parents to yours and hinting. mum's love ironing for some strange reason

yeah right... I have yet to find anyone in my very large family other than my nutcase sister who irons anything.

DawnW

raphanius wrote: »

combine the two by inviting parents to yours and hinting. mum's love ironing for some strange reason

S'cuse me, I am a mum, and I don't

ciderwithrosie_2

Will no doubt get flamed for this ... but I've never understood why, if people are working full-time and are falling behind on basic chores, they choose to have very time consuming pets, which just add to the stress and mess that is overwhelming them already.

Also they can be very costly, and I'm always amazed on here when people are trying to cut back on groceries/clothes for their family but still have a load of pets.

I'm not surprised your parents complain they haven't seen you if you class a couple of cats and some rabbits as more important in your life.

The allotment however, is something worthwhile as it's productive.

elsien

Probably because walking the dog gives me a very good excuse to get away from the stress and mess and leave it all behind for an hour or two!

ciderwithrosie_2

elsien wrote: »

Probably because walking the dog gives me a very good excuse to get away from the stress and mess and leave it all behind for an hour or two!

Still going to be there when you get back though.

lobbyludd

hi,

no you're not super woman - none of us are, I wonder if despitebeing disorganised, you are a perfectionist, too hard on yourself for not doing things perfectly? I know I have those tendencies.

I hope this comes across the right way - I'm very disorganised, full time job, single parent, 2 kids, staring to grow veg in the garden, do all the diy etc, have chronic depression and another health problem, which at the moment includes monthly visits to hospital trying to ward off surgery, 1 elderly cat (down from 3 sadly ). I fully appreciate the overwhelmed feeling you in right now, and when in it, it's hard to see a way out.

I do however also suffer from "rod for my own back" syndrome lol (see perfectionism above!). and I think I recognise a fellow sufferer?
It's hard sometimes to see that a lot of the responsibilities we feel overwhelmed by are choices. I choose to look after my garden and grow veg, because I enjoy it. soo if I reframe my thinking on it, the gardening is "me time" because I am choosing to do it (I could have it paved and put down strong weedkiller 2x per year). ditto allotment.you could tell them you're taking a break for a month because you're too busy. Unless you actually enjoy doing it and then in recognising that's why you're doing it, this becomes your leisure activity.

My mogs have all been largely outdoor cats (mostly because after the eldest dies at 17 the others were rubbish at defending their home, invite friends in and then get miffed and spray), next door has 2 entirely indoor pedigree cats. mine and hers are in prime condition and happy as clams with very different lifestyles. Cats don't need taking out for exercise at all, let alone 2x per day, they'll run around like fiends in the house if they want to. That's not to say don't do it, but if you do, only do it because you enjoy it, and then it's "you time". You could whilst the weather is nice, sit outside and do the paperwork, door open and timid cat may start to venture out and join you. IF it gets another fright, nothing will have been lost really, and s/he may in her own time gain his/her confidence back.

excerise class - I am fitting (sporadically) exercise into my day rather than a class (which always felt like a chore) - walking part way to work, up stairs at work (14 blinking floors), so it can be done, unless of course you enjoy the class - and again then when you choose to do it, it is leisure.

I find the first thing to do is set one small talk of 15 mins, and then just chill and have a think about my choices, one of my choices tonight is to leave the washing folded in the basket - it won't have gone anywhere tomorrow - no stress, no castigating myself. we have to be kind to ourselves!