Oh accidentally asked niece to be bridesmaid!

pinkpenguin_inshoes

At a family BBQ after a few my hubby 2 be told his sister, our niece could be bridesmaid after we'd agreed only our 3 children! Now he won't take it back! And if we have her we then have to have my 2 nieces and 2 nephews to put everyone's nose's out of joint!
I really can't afford, or want loads of bridesmaids and page boys! I just wanted our kids
Any quick thinking ways to resolve this?

74jax

Leave it to him to sort, pay and source items and deal with your three.

ska_lover

This is the kind of thing that takes the joy out of wedding planning - i.e trying to not upset anyone

Georgiegirl256

When we first got engaged the OH's brothers girlfriend was like "you've got 3 bridesmaids right here" pointing to the brothers 2 daughters and her daughter, or maybe she meant herself I'm not sure! But I was thinking yeah right as if! No 1: my 2 best mates would be BM's before the nieces were ever considered! No:2: I don't even like you anyhow, who are you to tell me who to pick!

Don't a lot of people pay for their own dresses nowadays? If so, maybe the nieces parents could pay for her dress? If that's not an option, maybe have a word with the nieces mother and try and gauge how excited the niece actually is, if she is, then it's a very awkward situation! Sorry I can't think of anything to suggest.

pinkpenguin_inshoes

I know I could go cheaper or ask them to pay but I really wanted my girls to enjoy being special bridesmaids without others and were only having a small wedding 30 day 10 of those children and us! There'll be even less in the church when I walk in!
What a muddle.

podperson

Could you maybe give the sister a ring and just explain that while you love your niece you were really just planning on having a small bridal party with just your kids. I'm sure she would understand that?
Also, maybe you give the niece a 'special' job to do so she still feels involved but not to the level of being a bridesmaid.

Stephb1986_2

My OH did the same and told his nieces that they were going to be bridesmaids, I didn't want any but had to back down and have them

Steph x

Idiophreak

pinkpenguin_inshoes wrote: »

And if we have her we then have to have my 2 nieces and 2 nephews to put everyone's nose's out of joint!

Don't think you do...Talk to your siblings about what your OH did and explain the only reason the neice is being a bridesmaid is so she's not disappointed after his error...

Hopefully they'll be reasonable enough to know these things happen and not throw a hissy fit about it.

spirit

Could you just have her as a flower girl and not actually refer to her as a BM at all?

Saturnalia

How old is niece? Could she do a reading or sing at the ceremony or some thing like that, so she gets a bit of a role but isn't actually a BM?

pinkpenguin_inshoes

She's only 2, were having a strictly non religious short ceremony. So no readings, and my sister in law has been hinting at having my niece as bm for ages finding out oh's niece is included in the ceremony anywhere would mean that they should have there children and she's very opinionated!
Told oh he can sort the mess I'm only ordering outfits for our own. :mad: