Weekday weddings

cats2012

strawberry_assassin wrote: »

We are having a midweek wedding next year, and whilst we are prepared for some people to not be able to make it, with regards to work the next day etc, I don't see how that is any different to a Sunday wedding? Or why a day/2 days off work for some people is such a big deal.

Idiophreak wrote: »

Some people may only get 20 days off per year and are often forced to take at least 3 over Christmas...by the time you take out 2 weeks, say, for a summer holiday, you're down to 7 days left. If you want to have any other kind of break during the year - or need to take your car to be serviced, wait for some furniture to be delivered, move house etc - your time's all gone.

Let alone if more than one friend/family has a non-weekend wedding in a year..!!!

Having said that, loads of my friends work in retail/hospitality and had to book our Saturday wedding off, but we just had to go with the majority and what suited the two of us.

duchy

Surely that's the point.
Everyone has other things they like to do .....apart from attending weddings and just like everything else it's a case of prioritising. One wedding you might move heaven and earth to attend ......another might be a "would be nice" but not the same level of priority but ultimately it's the bride and groom's day - for some couples it'd be unthinkable to not have certain people attend -and worth downsizing the wedding in one way or another to afford a Saturday- for others -the people attending is just a bonus and the wedding itself is what is important so the risk of fewer guests but the perfect (for them) venue or style of wedding is most important.

Here in the UK most people get more than five weeks paid holiday -even if your three best friends/favourite cousins all get married the same year it still leaves four weeks of leave even without flexitime, swopping shifts, using lieu time etc.

I'm sure the Bridezilla thread has a few vents about people complaining about this issue - as you can't please all the people all of the time -you may as well please yourself.

strawberry_assassin

Couldn't agree more Duchy.

In the end its the couple's wedding so why should they be thinking "oh I better not book it then because it's not convenient for such and such"

I agree that many people get a fair few weeks holiday, I get 5 weeks and most of the time struggle to find uses for all of that as it is.

I appreciate that some professions can't take time on certain days or times of year but if you constantly trying to find a middle ground between cost/perfect venue/maximum attendance etc it would never happen!

angel11

For me, it's an honour to be invited to a wedding, regardless what day of the week it is!!!!

Pinzy

It is lovely to be invited, but I've had to decline 2 weddings in the past due to work commitments. The couples were ok with it, and I sent along a card and gift with friends. The point about how close you are to the couple is very true. Difficult employers can be awful - my brother got told off for not booking time off well in advance for a funeral! He did mention he didn't know in advance when people were due to die!

Fundamentally, you have to do what's best for you, and the people who really love you willl understand that.

duchy

Idiophreak wrote: »

Nice attitude...I'm sure for every one of you there's another that would say "if they wanted us there they wouldn't have organised it for when they knew we were working".

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Indeed-the bride and groom would surely make sure it was possible for their nearest and dearest -those who it'd be unthinkable not to attend ....but to expect them to check every single one of the also-rans seems a bit unrealistic. A wedding invitation is exactly that-it's up to the recipient to then gracefully accept or decline.

I'm starting to understand why there are so many Bridezillas out there. A wedding is probably the only celebration that some guests feel they have the right to pick apart the way people have planned their special event. Could you honestly imagine people complaining they should be considered when the party giver is planning the venue or the colour of the cake or the clothing the party giver is planning on wearing at a 21st or a housewarming ? If you're paying or contributing to paying for an event -you have a right to comment -if you're not -you don't.It's quite an abuse of the hospitality offered to you IMO.