Weekday weddings

lazer

Personally,

I dislike it - there seems to be an assumption that people can just take time of work, but many workers are limited for time off

Teachers - I believe most can take personal days if really necessary (but you wouldn't want to be doing it to often!)

Factory Staff - usually fixed holidays with some floating days/flexi days.

Personally - i have 4 days holiday that i can take when I want - and this year 2 of them have been used for midweek weddings (one on a Friday), and I do resent using my annual leave for a wedding, but it does depend on whose wedding it is.

pinkpenguin_inshoes

I would find it very hard to attend a midweek wedding, it's very rare my other half can take time off holidays are booked 2 years in advance, and I wouldn't take the kids out of school or stay late, I'd prob leave by 8. I think if your doing midweek expect people not to come, or not enjoy themselves as much with working the next day.

xxlouisexx56

Relatives asked my DP to be best man and my dd to be flower girl at their wedding. Fine no problems.

They sent out no save the date so we just assumed it was a Saturday wedding. It wasn't until January at the first dress fitting for dd I asked the date as we only knew it would be in June. Well it's this Friday.

DP has had to have the day off work, dd the day off school and dd2 is missing nursery which we still have to pay for. I'm most annoyed at dd1 having to miss school.

Pinzy

A friend had a Monday wedding, it seemed as though everybody turned up, though quite a lot had left by 10-10.30. There was a core 20 who kept boogying till midnight!

babyb06

I understand it is cheaper for Bride & Groom and that an invitation is only that and you can decline......but......if it is a family member or friend you feel obliged to say yes.

I also felt trapped into a wedding last year that was midweek. A friend asked me to be bridesmaid, i said yes, delighted. Then they booked a wednesday wedding.......in a place really far away from their home (and from where family lived) because it was pretty and as it was midweek they could afford it - this meant 3 days off work for me (day before to travel up, day of wedding, next day to travel home)!!!!! Cost all the guests a lot more money (because time off work has a value) and then they were miffed when people pulled out.........

If you can't afford a weekend wedding it is your choice, but set a date first, then ask bridesmaids, BM, the person you want to make and deliver you cake (if its a mate as theirs was) after making it clear its mid week

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Idiophreak

ska_lover wrote: »

I attended a weekday wedding last year, and it was a very small do. The bride and groom hadn't intended it that way, and an awful lot of people didn't turn up..not sure if they had let the bride and groom know in advance, but the reception venue was at least half empty, lots of waste. The bride ended up in tears...as she had booked the weekday wedding to try and save money, but it had backfired big time with many guests not being able to - or not wanting to - take time off of work and lots of waste. After around 7pm, there were only about 8 people left

that makes me very sad.

strawberry_assassin

We are having a midweek wedding next year, and whilst we are prepared for some people to not be able to make it, with regards to work the next day etc, I don't see how that is any different to a Sunday wedding? Or why a day/2 days off work for some people is such a big deal.

Idiophreak

strawberry_assassin wrote: »

We are having a midweek wedding next year, and whilst we are prepared for some people to not be able to make it, with regards to work the next day etc, I don't see how that is any different to a Sunday wedding? Or why a day/2 days off work for some people is such a big deal.

Yeah, I don't stay as late or drink as much at Sunday weddings, either.

As to why 2 days off work is a big deal...seriously?

Some people may only get 20 days off per year and are often forced to take at least 3 over Christmas...by the time you take out 2 weeks, say, for a summer holiday, you're down to 7 days left. If you want to have any other kind of break during the year - or need to take your car to be serviced, wait for some furniture to be delivered, move house etc - your time's all gone.

Personally, I get 25 days per year and have quite a flexible employer, can WFH etc - but I'd still have to think carefully about whether a wedding was what I wanted to do with 2 of my days' holiday - they're few and far between.

duchy

There's a massive assumption with most posts here that the majority of people work Monday to Friday. True perhaps twenty years ago- Not so true today-so I do think it can depend on what your guests do for a living. Often midweek can be easier to book time off for - for people who work in retail, certain medical professionals -just about anyone who works in a 7 day a week industry.

Again people with school age children will usually plan on taking most of their leave when the kids are off so a school holiday time midweek wedding may not be an issue that a term time wedding would be.

If you have (say) lots of friends who are teachers rather than lots of civil or public service employed friends -it's a very different matter. Know your (wedding guest) market

As for those who "would need to think carefully" Personally I want people who are happy to share my special day not attend begrudgingly - but then as most midweek weddings are because of cost anyway - surely if it is that much of a chore to attend - do the bride and groom a favour and decline and they can either save money on numbers -or invite someone who wants to attend.

Idiophreak

duchy wrote: »

As for those who "would need to think carefully" Personally I want people who are happy to share my special day not attend begrudgingly - but then as most midweek weddings are because of cost anyway - surely if it is that much of a chore to attend - do the bride and groom a favour and decline and they can either save money on numbers -or invite someone who wants to attend.

Nice attitude...I'm sure for every one of you there's another that would say "if they wanted us there they wouldn't have organised it for when they knew we were working".

...And how fortunate you are to have endless holidays to do whatever you please with...In a perfect world I'd probably share your sentiments.

As it is, we don't live in a perfect world - people can't afford to have their weddings whenever they want -and people can't always do everything they'd like to do due to their holiday allowance.