Is it just me?

skullncrossbones

Or are there others out there who feel like they're contstantly waiting for life to begin. I'm 24, still live at home, have a job, car and amazing partner. However alot of my friends are newly pregnant, getting engaged and moving out with their partners...making me feel like I'm being left at the starting line. Don't get me wrong I'm so appreciative of what I have, and I've only been with my boyfriend for a small amount of time compared to others, but why are these things not happening to me I live in London so can't afford to move out on my own, and the industry I work in isn't well paid, though job satisfaction is higher then most jobs. There are positive things about to happen in my life, a chance of promotion and going to study part time. Great things but connected to my career...not my home life. I don't enjoy living at home and have slowly been saving to move out, but like I said can't afford it on my own and friends of mine either can't afford it or enjoy living at home. Ahhh dear. Sorry for the moan. Just needed to get it off my chest. If you made it to here then I thank you for reading!

martinthebandit

skullncrossbones wrote: »

Or are there others out there who feel like they're contstantly waiting for life to begin. I'm 24, still live at home,.....

Sounds like you think of yourself as still being a child, time to grow up and move out into the big bad world.

Cut those apron strings and stand on your own two feet.

JanCee

Hey, 24 is still very young. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.

lika_86

You have it all ahead of you though! One of my friends has bought a house, got married and had a baby, all by the age of 28 - what's left for him now to look forward to in life in terms of big things?

balletshoes

You have a life - and it sounds like a pretty good one, no?

If the only "con" is that you are still living at home, please don't worry too much about that. You are making plans for your future which includes moving out, and theres no hurry to grow up and take on loads of responsibilities if you think you might struggle. You are showing maturity by planning ahead for it .

PenguinOfDeath

Suppose it depends on how you view 'life starting. I have no plans to get engaged and definitely not to have children, yet I have bought a house with my partner, got a car, decent job, been travelling etc and I'm feeling pretty happy right now...usually its a case of making opportunities for things to move forward rather than waiting for them to come along...

skullncrossbones

martinthebandit wrote: »

Sounds like you think of yourself as still being a child, time to grow up and move out into the big bad world.

Cut those apron strings and stand on your own two feet.

Perhaps I do. I think my relationship with my mum would improve ten fold if I didn't live with her. Thank you for replying, all valuable points. If I lived anywhere but at home I would have to sell my car as my salary would not cover it. Also I could only afford a small room in a shared house in a horrible part of London...as much as I love living in London I hate it.

I view life starting as not being at home, having to totally look after yourself...so either I need to rob a bank or win the lottery. Both seem unreasonable options right now lol. Also I'd love a holiday, but again can't afford one, least not one aboard and my bodies yearning for sunshine. Oh well tomorrows another day hey.

balletshoes

skullncrossbones wrote: »

Perhaps I do. I think my relationship with my mum would improve ten fold if I didn't live with her. Thank you for replying, all valuable points. If I lived anywhere but at home I would have to sell my car as my salary would not cover it. Also I could only afford a small room in a shared house in a horrible part of London...as much as I love living in London I hate it.

I view life starting as not being at home, having to totally look after yourself...
so either I need to rob a bank or win the lottery. Both seem unreasonable options right now lol.

okay - so could you transfer your job to a different part of the country (where housing is cheaper for example?)

Hermia

If you feel your life hasn't begun then you need to start it! If that means thinking of ways you can move out then get planning.

Remember everyone's life goes up and down. You don't start life and then it just gets better and better and then it ends (unless you are extraordinary lucky). Realistically some of your engaged friends will end up divorced friends one day! I can guarantee that there will be a point when one of your friends will be looking at you enviously. Maybe she will be sat at home with a cranky toddler feeling trapped and wish she had the freedom you have.

lolavix

Don't put too much pressure on yourself. I read somewhere recently that the average age of a first time buyer is now something like 37, and the south east is a hideously expensive area to rent or buy. Focus on saving what you can while you have the chance so you can give yourself a good start when you can afford your own place.

I'm 26 and have recently finished a relationship of 5 years and staying in a friends spare room. All my mates are married or in long term relationships with children. I thought i would have had that by now but it didnt work out. Things sometimes look bleak but I have the rest of my life ahead of me and things will work out in the end :-)

skullncrossbones

balletshoes wrote: »

okay - so could you transfer your job to a different part of the country (where housing is cheaper for example?)

Unfortunately London is the best place to be in terms of salary for my type or work. If I move out of London I'd be paying crazier prices for transport, which would be fine if I got this promotion....waiting game huh!

Hermia fair point, I'm terribly impatient I guess. My mum drives me potty asking when I'm going to move out....it's fine for her, she's just bought a second rental property and has been with her partner for years. Lolavix you're right, we all have ups and downs, can't always have everything we want. And good for you for being so positive hope you get some luck soon