did a death of parent reunite you with family?

red_devil

I hadnt spoken to my sister for several years but due to mums passing lately we have spoken and altho i cant see us becoming great friends i think we now continue to have contact by text, phone or whatever sometimes.
has this happened to anyone else?

Ames

Not really. When mum was ill I ended up spending a lot of time with her side of the family (my grandad, auntie, uncle, cousins). We got on OK, but the issues that had made me keep them at arms length were still there, and then a few things happened shortly after mum died that made me cut off all contact again.

I really hope it works out for you and your sister, and I'm glad something good's come out of the bad.

Artytarty

I thought I was happening with my cousin and me after his Mum died. Sadly it turn out to be very temporary, probably just a reaction to the grief on his part. Despite vowing to keep in touch and lamenting the lost years, I made an effort be he does not reply to me now so I have sopped banging my head on a brick wall.
I'm sorry for your loss, I hope it works out better for you and your sister.

System

Not really, My Dad and my Stepdad was always the calming influence between me and my Mum. When they died there was no one to step in the middle.

I lost contact with my bro' a long time ago.

Toto

Yeah it did, about a year after my mum died I got in contact with my dad (who I'd not seen for about 15 years). Initially it was to just get answers to my questions, I was angry and grieving. But, 11 years on and we are still in touch, he was there at my wedding, he saw me graduate and although he's now in the early to mid stages of dementia I'm so glad we've had the time to get to know each other.

I doubt I would have got in contact while mum was alive, I'm not sure that she would have had a problem with it actually, but I just doubt it would have happened. There was an awful lot of murky water under that bridge.