ESA medical

SlimmingSusan

Am in a right mess after dad passed away 2 weeks tonight. Mental health professionals do not see nor understand the frustration caused by DWP. I'll just copy and paste from bereavement board.There is something I need to ask, but probably belongs on the benefits board, am not ok, so hope the questions will be directed in the right direction.

I was on carers allowance till dad went into the nursing home where he died. I duly informed as requested. I then went onto Esa with depresson and anxiety- genuine. I saw dad going downhill, could not cope with mum. After dad died thought was having a heart attack at 6.30 in morning. Turned out to be a panic attack. Ambulance has been round here 4 times over last month as had suicidal tendencies. No excuse, just the truth. I have my ESA medical on Tuesday. Letter arrived on day of funeral.

Mum is on AA, having eye operation on 13th June, then her second knee replacement on 20th (last one was 18 years ago).

I pushed my mother behind my dad in church, Mother is difficult- it is obvious that she could not have been caring like she thinks she was. I'm in counselling for that, am under mental health services. What do I do re ESA medical, descriptors printed off but I am a coper. I'm actually running on adrenaline, coping with mum, then crumbling at night. But then am drinking myself into oblivion, ringing NHS direct, hence ambulances.

GP has said she willl support me to end of the earth.

Dogger69

Be honest, tell them everything. Have you submitted evidence from your GP, CPN etc?

Please don't turn to drink as the answer. It will only make things worse.

SlimmingSusan

Did the esa50 before dad died.
Am supported by gp but in a mess. Have forms signed from ambulance that I refused A n E, but also under crisis home treatment team at local hospital twice in last 8 months.

I can cope till I have wine to ease my hurting emotionally head- then it gets worse.

baggy13

Record and inform the HCP that your doing it to try to stop the lies they try to get away with

Dogger69

SlimmingSusan wrote: »

Did the esa50 before dad died.
Am supported by gp but in a mess. Have forms signed from ambulance that I refused A n E, but also under crisis home treatment team at local hospital twice in last 8 months.

I can cope till I have wine to ease my hurting emotionally head- then it gets worse.

Is there anyone that can go with you to the medical, or if not be at the end of the phone so you can call them for support? Take all your evidence with you (keep copies), and send them to the benefit office dealing with your claim.

You have said yourself that alcohol makes things worse for you. I know it is tough, but when you reach for the bottle remind yourself that - it is not going to help you. Your path to recovery will be far smoother without alcohol.

baggy13 wrote: »

Record and inform the HCP that your doing it to try to stop the lies they try to get away with

If you inform the HCP that you are recording the assessment they will terminate it, and the OP will have her benefits suspended. This is very poor advice.

SlimmingSusan

baggy13 wrote: »

Record and inform the HCP that your doing it to try to stop the lies they try to get away with

What is HCP

richard9991

SlimmingSusan wrote: »

What is HCP

HCP = Health care professional

princessdon

Truthful

Why not claim income support and CA for your mother if she is on AA?

Saves a lot of grief in the long run