holidaying with out the kids?

glitter_fairy

so we have a 19 year old (only just met, my step daughter recently moved in) and 10 and 9 year old.

we have been given the opportunity to go abroad justthe 2 of us with some friends. My mum can have the younger two and the older one would be ok on he rown.

BUT i feel bad going on holiday with out them. My husband thinks im being soft.


so do you go away with out the kids?

LisaLou1982

You are being soft!

Go! Run like the wind and enjoy some time with your hubby!

pukkamum

OMG grab that passport pack that bag and don't even look back!
Dh and I fantasise about holidays on our own, just sitting, reading, having a beer, getting showered and dressed with out what feels like six million kids demanding something from you every 0.5 seconds. What is there to think about?
My friend anf her dh have four days away on their own every year and she said the only points she misses the kids is for the first 10 seconds they get in the taxi to the airport, and the 10 seconds before they arrive home!
Maybe a slight exaggeration but you get my point.
Go, go now before one of them gets ill and you can't go, thats happened to me, my sympathy for the ill child was given through gritted teeth.

geoffky

We do it ALL the time...And get weekends away,.You only live once...

Savvy_Sue

Been doing it since the youngest was two ... not very often between then and teens, but very definitely once they were teens! :rotfl:

Mind you, I didn't leave them home alone that much, even when they should have been old enough to be trusted!!! Dire threats were issued: NO PARTIES! NO VISITORS!!

Funky_Bold_Ribena

Think of it as them having a holiday without you - and you are just going to your friends whilst the younger ones are having a ball at their grandmother's and you are giving the older one some space...

peachyprice

It's something we've always done since they were tiny. It's equally important for a marriage to have time to be 'Bob and Jane' as it is to be Mum & Dad for the children.

Go pack now!

FBaby

Many couples go on holiday without their kids. I have been since i met my partner. I don't feel bad and my kids have never shown resentment. However, we also always go on holiday together and I also do take them away just the three of us (not my partner's children), so they know I don't prioritise my partner over them.

I don't feel bad doing it, but would if it meant compromising on a family holiday with my children that same year.

fluffnutter

Do I take it that you've not been away with your OH for over 10 years? It's healthy to have time as a couple and your kids will enjoy being spoilt rotten by the grandparents.

Lay some ground rules down for the 19 year old (I know he's technically an adult but I was pretty wild at 19, especially if left to my own devices in mum and dad's house ) and enjoy your holiday

samroo

I know how you feel op. We are very much a family unit and as parents wouldn't go on holiday without the kids. For one thing, we have never had grandparents living nearby and couldn't afford holiday with kids as well as going on our own.

74jax

Why do you feel bad? Do you have time with just your OH at othertimes - weekends away/datenight?

Everyone is different. I love my weekends away and holidays without DD. And I equally love them together, they 'different' holidays.

If you aren't going to enjoy it though I'm not sure its worth it. What would bother you?