Update on Court Hearing today

welshcakes

I have absolutely no doubt that your daughter will eventually get every single penny of her money and that she will utilise it wisely knowing the incredible lengths you have gone to to pursue securing it for her.

Yours would be an excellent Case Study for your MP to place infront of the committee reviewing CSA system reforms as it highlights many of the fundamental flaws in efficiency and consequently provides tips on how the CSA could be updated to avoid costly wastes on resources (and ulitmately tax payers money).

pippamannequin

Good luck Kellogs, hope all goes well now. x

kelloggs36

welshcakes wrote: »

I have absolutely no doubt that your daughter will eventually get every single penny of her money and that she will utilise it wisely knowing the incredible lengths you have gone to to pursue securing it for her.

Yours would be an excellent Case Study for your MP to place infront of the committee reviewing CSA system reforms as it highlights many of the fundamental flaws in efficiency and consequently provides tips on how the CSA could be updated to avoid costly wastes on resources (and ulitmately tax payers money).

Yes, and how important it is to listen to what they are being told. I wrote on my MAF that he would be non-compliant and would go to any length to avoid paying, but they ignored that and gave him so many chances over and above what they should have (from their own admission) that delays were inevitable. When they say that they will give X time for somebody to provide info, or payment, then as soon as X time has elapsed, then the next action should happen. In my case, instead of that it was another reminder with another period of time to wait, followed by another and another and another. They never seemed to realise that he wasn't going to comply and should have taken action years ago. However, if I do get the money, then it will be worth having in a lump sum and won't be wasted at all. Some will however, go to my husband who has taken the role of father to my DD and has maintained her throughout the last 10 years without so much as a whinge - he saw us as a package and took on the responsibility where my ex washed his hands of her. My DD agrees that my husband has been great and is happy for him to have some of the money to help pay off his credit card bill, which she incidently has had the benefit of with meals out, trips out, holidays etc.

Thanks for all your support - it isn't over until that money is in my account and I am so nervous that something will happen which will prevent it from happening.:rolleyes:

Katie~baby

I have an extremely non-compliant ex husband who decided when our daughter was 12, that he didn't want anything to do with her anymore 'because I will have to pay you maintenance' was his exact reply.


See i have a simular situation with pwc! She would not let us see child cause we were not giving her enough and as soon as we changed over to the new system and the money went up hey presto we could see child again! 4 years in court for nothing :mad: Its a shame my partner missed out on 4 years of his childs life because she wanted more money, pwc has happily told us this is why she stopped contact as well

But anyway well done for fighting your corner! You were more than fair offering to accept £30 a week! More fool him for not paying up! I hope you get the money you and your daughter deserve!

aussiesbird

When they say that they will give X time for somebody to provide info, or payment, then as soon as X time has elapsed, then the next action should happen. In my case, instead of that it was another reminder with another period of time to wait, followed by another and another and another.

This just goes to show the inconsistencies from office to office. If there are regulations to abide by with regard to calculations then where are the regulations for the administrative side of things? There should be a protocol that EVERY office should follow. Not only would that speed up the process it would save tax payers money and inevitably result in less complaints.

TheWaltons_3

Well good on you for persevering - his wife? Trying to buy you off?! How did you react to that? Is she a Mother herself? Let's hope that she doesn't end up in your shoes.


As for your daughters Father... what kind of scum, after 12 years being a Daddy... does that?

Words fail me (actually, they don't... but for what I would like to say would be truly worthy of a ban)

kelloggs36

His wife is I believe, the cause of all the aggro - she is the Third Party Representitive as he blankly refuses to acknowledge the CSA at all. They have 2 children together, and her own father disowned her mother and her so she should know what it feels like, yet is happy for another child to experience that rejection. She is so eaten up with jealousy that her husband had a life before she came on to the scene, but she fails to recognise that without meeting me, marrying me and having his daughter, it is highly unlikely they would have met in the first place!!! When my DD did stay there before all this blew up, she would refuse to feed her, would call her names and refuse to let her son anywhere near her, saying to him "you don't want to play with scum like that". My DD's father never saw any of this, and refused to believe it when my DD told him, begging him to stop it. He just said "I have to take my wife's side on this one". She was allowed to play with her half brother when SHE wasn't around. She had my DD's hair cut without consulting me at all when she was very young, which upset me but there was no point in causing a scene as it was too late, but my sister didn't see it like that and said that next time she bumped into her, she would cut her hair and see how she liked it!!! lol. I'm rambling now, but yes TheWaltons, she did, I believe, try to buy me off, and I did consider it, although they offered way below what was owed at that time. I was willing to compromise and accept what was owed up to that point and then close the case and forego any further maintenance which would have been almost 3 years worth which I told them, but no, that wasn't good enough. I could have backed down, but my pigheadedness got the better of me I'm afraid, and I refused to accept their paltry offer. For those who feel I am being greedy, I don't care any more. I have fought and fought for what is fair, and have always been slapped down but not this time. i have tried to play fair but had it thrown back in my face so no, I am not willing to compromise any more - it is all or nothing. Having said that, after he pays what is owed, he will still have an ongoing liability until September of almost 400 pounds per month. I have told the CSA that I am happy to accept much reduced payments of about 50 pounds per month as I am aware that he has had to remortgage his house to pay me, and that it would be extremely difficult for him to do both (although he did make that choice not to pay up until that point forcing the remortgage upon himself). As the repayments on the 25k will be about 150 - 180 per month, another 50 pounds will still be below what the Court expect him to pay at the moment (he is supposed to pay me 50 pounds per WEEK). At that rate, it will still take him another 5 years to pay all what he owes, but it won't cripple him to do it, wheras if he had to pay the full amount until September, it would cost him over 500 quid per month AND he would still be in arrears and would have to pay them off too. I don't want the CSA to refuse to negotiate an amount as they seem to in some cases, I want life to be as simple as possible for all of us.

aussiesbird

Sounds like you've been through the mill kelloggs but well done to you for not giving up. You are not being greedy by any stretch of the imagination, you are doing what is right for your daughter and should be applauded for that. You can hold your head up high and stand proud. Good luck!

kelloggs36

Thank you very much!!! Will keep you posted on events.